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2006-04-19T17:00:00.000+08:00

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Comments "Brain Drained By Google" By Edward Tenner (Straits Times, Review, 28-Mar-06)

2006-03-28T11:21:00.000+08:00

Are we really losing critical ability? Edward Tenner, as I read from Google’s search engines, is an independent writer. While his page turns up first on Google, he complains in his book “Our Own Devices”, that students are less teachable and less critical due to search engines. Now, being an interested search engine user and teacher of optimization techniques, I looked at is with a bit of

Whoosh 18: Just Graduated!

2006-03-27T05:29:00.000+08:00

Wow! An exhilarating ride – and Whoosh 18 is over. Yes, this is the 18th batch of people we’ve trained and cared for and helped to develop. As part of the training, we also know that they will continue to create wonderful changes in their life and the people around them. So here’s to Whoosh 18, wishing you a great journey ahead.

Friendship - The Uncanny Connection #4

2006-03-26T13:40:00.000+08:00

As usual, Zora whom I mentioned in my previous post (you can visit her site to get a feel for NLP in a different language… haha) and I have this weird connection. She was reading the pirated version of “Master Your Mind Design Your Destiny” that for some strange reason was translated into Czech and is being retailed in Belgrade without our permission, then she realizes I’ve sent her an email to

Losing versus Cherishing

2006-03-25T13:00:00.000+08:00

Ever lost something and found yourself aggravated? Well, that seems to be a human tendency. When we lose things, we seem to want them back. When we have them, we seem to never cherish them. What will you lose, if you don’t decide what you should cherish and value? Because if you don’t cherish it, you will lose it forever. But if you have lost it after you learnt to cherish it, then you will

Stuart's Philosophies Listed on Blog Search Engine!

2006-03-24T09:02:00.000+08:00

Woah… I was looking out for my blogs in the Blogosphere and realized that I had been featured on Blogsearchengine.com. It’s cool! Talk about raising the bar, huh. Now I HAVE to do more of those therapeutic metaphors…

Wordpress 2.0 Theme Competition

2006-03-24T08:56:00.000+08:00

In case you weren’t aware, there’s a competition up at www.arenawp.com. It’s one of the hottest of the season, and people are pouring in their entries because of prizes that are being sponsored. The great news is that I’ve officially been accepted as the First Prize donor. If any of you are interested to participate, you better hurry down. Wordpress is primarily a PHP content management system.

Expressing Oneself #2 - Being Genuine

2006-03-24T08:51:00.000+08:00

Ok – this is a tough thing to do for most people, but I’ve just come out from training the Normal Academic students at Macpherson Secondary school, and I trust that they need some of this as well. It’s not just because they are from the Normal Academic stream that I want to write this, it just so happens that I believe every 15 year old teenager ought to learn how to master themselves and

Busy with Marketing...

2006-03-19T04:10:00.000+08:00

In case some of you are wondering how come I have had little activity on some of my sites, it’s because I’ve been heavily working on my marketing strategy for the new Superkids Learning Centre that’s located along Serene Centre. It’s been a pain doing research on all the competitors because they just don’t have it right. I’ve always believed in making sure that whatever is done with children is

Expressing Oneself #1

2006-03-18T21:02:00.000+08:00

I got a comment listed by Madskrews, and was just wondering how I ought to reply to the mail. Obviously, Madskrews, you say that you have an issue expressing yourself. It’s probably not about expression – it’s probably about your emotional state. For instance, you might find that your buttons get pushed when someone ‘violates’ your space, the things that are important to you. Everyone’s

Up in Seremban

2006-03-15T12:30:00.000+08:00

I just got off an excruciating journey by car (it was in a proton Gen-2) and luckily, I'm still alive! I'll be leading the Malaysia iag this time and there are a number of interesting new things I am teaching this round. Anyway the bummer is internet connection Is not working and I have resorted to GPRS to blog...

The Startling Reality: Individuals versus Teams

2006-03-13T02:29:00.000+08:00

I just completed a series of trainings in schools and in corporations that got me thinking – in reality, we are all extremely pampered and lazy individuals, and without an external object of competition, without a group of people pushing us on, we’ll never move forward. This is the reality of goal setting. The truth is, I don’t believe anyone can do it on their own, as a single person. I’ve had

Rules of Living #8: Slamming It In The Face, Sticking It In The Gut

2006-03-13T02:19:00.000+08:00

Watch our favorite action heroes at it! When they meet their foes, they literally put their skills to the test… Spidey slams Doc Ock into the wall! Neo bashes Agent Smith so hard he flies through the building! Batman lands his knee in the criminal’s gut with a thud! Smashing heroes with one exception – they are fiction and so are their enemies. What a better way to talk a little more about

Rules of Living #7: Look Back for Learning, Look Forward with Purpose

2006-03-12T12:21:00.000+08:00

I started to realize the value to taking stock. It’s like how a department store sometimes closes for a stock take in order to ensure that everything is up to speed. You find out what’s missing, and strange additions in the back of the closet… I know that everyone needs some kind of feedback, but I believe the best kind of feedback you can have is the kind you give yourself. So, sometimes, just

Temasek Secondary Part 2

2006-03-12T11:28:00.000+08:00

Temasek Secondary School

2006-03-12T00:17:00.000+08:00

I encountered challenge of a slightly different kind in Temasek Secondary School, but it was with great teamwork with fellow trainer Ramesh Muthusamy. I suppose having to take all the technical segments was really quite a drain.. :p thankfully, the students had learnt to have a mind of their own and eventually propelled themselves forward. Here are the photos... HEY TEMASEK SEC 4N, 4U, 4I of

The Journey Forward

2006-03-12T00:12:00.000+08:00

Here's an interesting shot I got as I was heading up to a school training. I guess it almost signifies the start of a new journey! Everyone is on a journey of significance. And a significant journey it will be, as long as our direction is set properly. Always be mindful of your purpose and direction.

'X' marks the spot

2006-03-09T02:55:00.000+08:00

Today marks the start of an extremely pressuring period for me. I start off today at Temasek Secondary School, followed by the kids camps for the next few days, then I go back to Macpherson Secondary the following week, and then I get hit by POE module 2. Immediately after that, I’m on to in-camp training… talk about serious damage, man! Anyhow, I hope to be able to do something with Stephen

Bowing Under Pressure

2006-03-07T23:14:00.000+08:00

Giving up is really a sign of weakness, or is it? I’ve seen situations where people bow under pressure to do the things that they normally wouldn’t do. This is about being cornered and having nowhere left to go. It’s a tremendous force that even Sun Tzu, the great general, talked about in the Art of War. By destroying all options, you end up forcing people to think you will win, rally morale

Rules of Living #6: Kindness and Respect

2006-03-07T19:07:00.000+08:00

I read a newspaper article today that really freaked me. It was the guy who was torturing cats, and there was this grisly photo of a kitten with a protruding eyeball! What kind of sick, deranged person does this, I’m not sure. But it certainly tells me that it is not acceptable. I think hundreds of people will agree with me that you treat all living things with kindness and respect. After all,

Rules for Living #5: Come Back To Yourself

2006-03-07T15:51:00.000+08:00

It’s an interesting insight I gained recently about the way I have focused on going “out there” to accomplish many things. Many of the things that I do, I take it upon myself to look back and ask – did I accomplish what I set out to do. But most of the time, I realize it isn’t in the doing itself that makes me feel good – it’s in the realizing that what I did was congruent with who I am, and

Rules of Living #4 - Learning Rapidly

2006-03-06T16:11:00.000+08:00

Never thought this would be a Rule for Living, huh! But Learning Rapidly is one of the most important skills required of you as a human being. Imagine we forgot everything we learnt. We’d be worst than in the Stone Ages! No fire, no inventions, etc. I think my greatest advantage is my ability to learn rapidly. I can literally dive into a field of expertise and start gaining the necessary

Rules of Living #4: Appreciation

2006-03-06T12:25:00.000+08:00

I can’t really emphasize this enough. Appreciation gives the recipient energy, but more importantly, when you give appreciation, that gives you energy. It gives you a moment to think about how much you really know the other person in the first place. For instance, I often write notes to my employees. And if I haven’t, it’s because I know I haven’t had the chance to interact with them enough.

Rules of Living #3: Detoxify

2006-03-06T09:14:00.000+08:00

Who doesn’t have emotional baggage? I think everyone has their own set of problems, and to you, your problems are always going to be the biggest. The most important thing is to start to consider what to do instead of what not to do. I’m not sure how close any of you have been to severe depression, when you felt like giving things up all together. I’ve been there, and sometimes, negative

Rules of Living #2: Commitment

2006-03-03T10:16:00.000+08:00

Commitment? Sounds like a bad word to many people, but it is one of those things that stops you in your tracks if someone asks you “are you committed to this”. Why? Because it is a very tall order, and people are expecting something from you if you make a commitment. I’ve known commitment to be a powerful resource as well as a theme of success. In life, we also expect people to commit to doing

Rules of Living #1: Participate 100%

2006-03-02T22:34:00.000+08:00

If you truly want to be successful in life, put in 100% in everything you do. When you set out to accomplish something, make sure you constantly reflect on what else needs to be done so that you can improve in your participation. In the area of building great relationships, did you participate fully in discussions? No, I don’t mean be intrusive, but really pay attention to the people who matter

The New Race of "Why Bother?" People

2006-03-02T22:20:00.000+08:00

Why bother. That’s the attitude I have met up with on occasion. In fact, I know many people who wake up to the world of “why bother”. They describe their lives as “ok”, “fine”, “all right”, but never really have the pizzazz for life, the enthusiasm. I suspect a number of things. First of all, these people may actually be hurt. The disappointment in life has led them to lead a life that is like

Rate my blog!

2006-03-02T19:40:00.000+08:00

Hey everyone – if you’ve visited my blog, you’ll probably want to help me out here – I need some people to start reviewing my blog and the information there. If it’s valuable, please tell people about it by visiting here to vote: http://singaporeblog.net/index.php?a=stats&u=stuarttan Appreciate the support you’ve been giving so far!

What Do You Want?

2006-03-01T16:12:00.000+08:00

Everybody just knows that there are problems everywhere in the world, right? I mean, I probably have as many problems as you have, it’s just that they are different. Here’s what most people do when they have problems, and I think they are wrong. Take it out on someone else. Muck around in the problem. Get Walled-In on the problem. Prevent Solutions from unfolding. Negative talk

How To Blog

2006-02-28T23:00:00.000+08:00

I have a few useful resources for you guys, but you’ll have to study blogging properly. If you’re using Wordpress, there’s a lot more functionality. If you’re using Blogger.Com, then you need to learn a bit more to customize your blog. However, both are customizable because the fact is you have access to the coding structure. Here are some WordPress resources: http://themes.wordpress.net

Arrogance and Change

2006-02-26T15:55:00.000+08:00

Arrogance stems from many factors. One of the things that people dislike and are turned off by is a person’s look that appears to be arrogant. I suppose I can’t explain it when I say that there really are some people who have the airs of an arrogant person, even though they feel they aren’t. It’s written on their face, the way they look at others and the way they communicate. Now, I know some

Friendship: The Uncanny Connection Part 3

2006-02-25T08:59:00.000+08:00

Not too long ago, I was invited to a wedding. My friend, Joash Chee, was getting married. Well, a friend whom I’ve known since I was in Secondary Two, that is. The strange thing is that he remembered me from the invitation list that connected another mutual friend and classmate, Terence Teh, through his wife, who happened to know me through the newspaper ads we do. I couldn’t make his wedding due

Friendship: The Uncanny Connection Part 2

2006-02-24T10:24:00.000+08:00

I have a friend by the name of Zora Gajic. She’s Serbian by birth, and stays in the Czech Republic, running Silva Mind Power seminars. In my opinion, she’s also an extremely attractive woman, not just because she looks great, but because there’s a very deep level of connection that she makes with people around her, not just some fluff and small talk. When we first met in the Trainers and

You, too, are Mortal

2006-02-23T10:34:00.000+08:00

Will we die? Yes, all of us will. But I think some people are not aware of their own mortality, sometimes me included. I find that the eternal irony of life just beckons - are we just a figment of it's imagination after we leave this place. I find myself having to conform to other people's wishes and desires... Living life the way other people want. Sometimes it's flattering that people think

Friendship: The Uncanny Connection Part 1

2006-02-23T09:42:00.000+08:00

Something just sparked in my head today. I wrote about ‘destiny’ yesterday, and I realized that there are truly some people whom I have been destined to meet. One of them is this guy called Alvin Soon. Now, Alvin runs a Blog with several other contributors, called www.LifeCoachesBlog.com. I’ve known him since 1997, actually, when he first came for my NLP Practitioner’s training program. Here’

Destiny

2006-02-22T17:43:00.000+08:00

Do you believe that there's a specific path you have been destined to walk? That no matter where you go, you have been called to get certain results in your life. I have had a number of different crossroads in my life, and somehow, each event seems to help the next event in my life. Perhaps it may seem that my life is charmed, but I feel that several of the events that happened were there to

Stuart's Philosophies: Poverty in Spirit?

2006-02-22T17:11:00.000+08:00

Stuart's Philosophies: Poverty in Spirit?: "http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/02/22/your-solution-to-the-world/#comment-864"

Poverty in Spirit?

2006-02-22T16:35:00.000+08:00

Alvin wrote an interesting article here, which I commented on. Poverty, contribution and what we can do in the world – what’s your stand? http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/02/22/your-solution-to-the-world/#comment-864

By 30th April 2006 - One Thousand Positive Emotions!!

2006-02-22T15:46:00.000+08:00

I ran a test with a small group of coaches recently, and the strange feeling I got when I was doing this experiment was that people were literally getting positive vibes just reading good emotions. I knew they were contagious, I just didn’t know how much. So, I’m going to replicate this experiment with readers of my blog. All you have to do is to post as many positive

Perspective... Again!

2006-02-21T14:33:00.000+08:00

My girlfriend recently took a photo of this using my O2 Atom (it was much better after the ROM upgrade), and reminded me that it is important for us to sometimes look for the aesthetic amongst simple things. When was the last time you actually looked at something simple but focused on what was wonderful about it? Like a leaf? A chair? A book? And marvel at the fact that although it is so

Developing Self-Esteem

2006-02-21T14:29:00.000+08:00

Most people think that self-esteem development is only for teenagers. That’s not true. I know many teenagers who have a great self-esteem whereas some adults simply hide their lack of self-esteem with anger, hate, complaining a lot, and even victimizing other people. Here are some reasons why you have to constantly be aware and develop your own self-esteem. Know who you really are. The

Riddle of the Fair

2006-02-21T14:06:00.000+08:00

On my way to the fair, I met seven jugglers and a bear. Every juggler had three cats, Every cat had three rats, Every rat had two mice, All the mice had nine lice. Lice, mice, rats and cats, Seven jugglers and a bear, How many in all were going to the fair?

Inspiration from Innovation

2006-02-20T02:06:00.000+08:00

I just spent 45 minutes in total reading the book on Google. It’s fascinating! Larry Page is just one year older than I am, and Sergey Brin has a mathematical genius platoon under his head! I’ve never really heard about them or read about them, but this book on the development of Google was amazing. A short glimpse inside their conversations and their personality gives me a feeling of

Interesting Point About Selfishness

2006-02-20T01:35:00.000+08:00

If you tell someone he is selfish, you are too! Visit www.stuarttan.com today!

The Curve: KL, M'sia

2006-02-20T00:35:00.000+08:00

This is the Curve, a brand new shopping mall in KL, Malaysia, where I just came back from. It's an interesting mall with lots of restaurants, and it's pretty large, yet it's empty because it hasn't launched yet. I stayed at the Royal Bintang Hotel (Damansara) which is different from the one at Jln Bukit Bintang. Didn't have much of a chance to tour around the place, but I think there's probably

Training Commonwealth Secondary School

2006-02-19T21:13:00.000+08:00

Wow - this was quite a blast. I had some really belly-bursting laughs here and I can say it was one of the most funny programs I'd ever led. Of course, I wish I hadn't had to come up to KL for the preview. Class of 4/2 an 4/5... I wish you guys all the very best!

Effectiveness of Training

2006-02-19T20:45:00.000+08:00

I've been pondering about the effectiveness of training. I mean, I obviously don't doubt it is useful, but I wonder about the people who attend the training, and how it becomes effective for them to use and learn because the important thing is the way an individual follows up with his or her own learnings. So I'm in a fix - do I fork out the time to have a follow-up with them, or do I get them

Malaysia - Empowerment Seminar

2006-02-19T20:40:00.000+08:00

I ran an empowerment seminar for around 90 students who had attended my 'I am Gifted, So are You' and Superkids training programs. The follow up was amazing, with lots of kids and lots of questions!

Do What You Never Would Have Done

2006-02-19T20:35:00.000+08:00

I took this picture while having lunch with my family and girlfriend... and it serves as an interesting reminder that we could explore doing certain things in our lives that we never thought of doing. I mean, I've never taken a photo of soup before. The reminder is interesting because it's a picture. I remember the old Jamaican lady in "Meet Joe Black" saying that in our life, we ought to collect

Coaching the Patterns of Excellence

2006-02-19T19:59:00.000+08:00

Some of us have been hard at work developing our coaches through the use of different skills. Here's what they have been busy doing:

Life Coaching

2006-02-19T19:55:00.000+08:00

I've been working with some of these guys for over a year now. I think if people are interested in learning about coaching and developing coaching skills ought to take the time to learn from them. Obviously, you need to have completed the Patterns of Excellence Program. But, having a conversation with them on Life Coaches Blog can also benefit you. Here, we have Paiboon, Pete and Alvin.

Vengeance

2006-02-18T10:07:00.000+08:00

Do you remember the Roadrunner and the Coyote? These guys have been at it forever. I kind of admire the roadrunner for one reason – he’s just doing what he’s doing best. And seldom does he have to do anything to take revenge or fight back, because he knows that the coyote is always going to screw up. In fact, I don’t even think the roadrunner is all that smart, but he just keeps doing what he

Friendship

2006-02-18T10:00:00.000+08:00

I recently had someone request to be linked on Friendster, and I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread here on friendship. The reason why I thought I’d write is because there are a number of students whom I teach who seem to have an issue with ‘backstabbers’ and the like. Well, you’re not the first, and I want to explore the reasons why people may be ‘backstabbers’. I’m not the

What Do You Find Romantic?

2006-02-12T19:21:00.000+08:00

I’ve been teaching the stuff of dating and attraction for years, but the one that really bowled me over in stitches was that people propose by saying “Let’s go get a HDB flat”. I think romance is about getting oneself involved in feeling what the person is feeling. It’s a really sexy feeling to have your mind read by someone you love, and and be understood. Ever read the mind of someone and was

Death Penalty for terrorists?

2006-02-12T13:08:00.000+08:00

I read the article on the death penalty for terrorists, and I was disturbed.. Not by the need for such laws, but by the worry that the law is functional when the perpetrators are actually caught. Laws such as this lead me to wonder how to make them effective and fair. After all, you don't want to be accused and put under the microscope. The stress of an investigation could make it worse than the

Finally indexed

2006-02-11T21:41:00.000+08:00

Ah… finally, Stuart-Tan.com has been indexed. I know for a fact that there are a number of people who do not know how to get their sites indexed and therefore lose out a lot on the traffic aspect of things. I’ll be covering a post on that soon at www.internetmarketingsingapore.com/blog/. It’s just for the benefit of people who want to start their own blog but have no idea how to get more people

Blogger or Wordpress?

2006-02-10T21:34:00.000+08:00

I had a very strange experience yesterday – just after 3 days of posting, Wordpress Blog gets indexed whereas Blogger blog didn’t even after two weeks. I’m migrating http://stuart-tan.com over to my Wordpress blog, man… sheesh.

Love And Hurt

2006-02-08T20:33:00.000+08:00

Someone asked me to elaborate about love and hurt. I suppose I haven’t had the chance to discuss this issue on my blog, so it came as an opportunity for me. I think love (as in romantic love) has interesting definitions – I treat love as a connection that leads two people to blend in many ways than just one. They think the same thoughts, they feel the same feelings, they behave in similar

Stuart's Philosophies: LifeCoachesBlog: Gratitude Experiement

2006-02-08T18:50:00.000+08:00

Stuart's Philosophies: LifeCoachesBlog: Gratitude Experiement

LifeCoachesBlog: Gratitude Experiement

2006-02-08T17:29:00.000+08:00

Looks like the Life Coaches are initiating a Gratitude Experiment. I’d first like to contribute to this by saying that the Life Coaches in AKLTG have always been a boon. Alvin, Pete, Brenda, Yezhong, Kalai, Paiboon and the rest who have contributed as coaches, are some of the most amazing people in the world I have met. Their strength in caring and contribution have helped people…

Dealing With A Conflict of Values

2006-02-08T15:02:00.000+08:00

I find I tend to hold on to things that can’t be held, and it gets frustrating whenever that which cannot be held is taken away from me. Weird, huh. So since you can’t hold on to things that can’t be held, don’t get caught up frustrating yourself when you know that it’s not possible to hold on to them. Then, the true meaning of letting go takes place. Have you ever felt trapped before? Here

The Seventh City: Part 1 - The Beginning

2006-02-08T05:00:00.000+08:00

The Bard picked up his lute and strummed a solemn tune, as the curious men and women gathered around to listen to the strange old tales of the Gods of the Ancient Cities. As he cleared his voice, he sang, clear and strong. “And Aneldra smiled upon her face of beauty … and built for her the perfect Temple. It was the place where restless souls would flee to, it was the place for

Finding Purpose Part 3

2006-02-07T21:50:00.000+08:00

You know the old adage "Confusion means you are learning". I'd like to update that a bit - being aware and acknowledging that you are confused means you are learning. For most part of 2005, I was confused and was battling a lot of the confusion inside myself. A whole series of things seemed to go wrong including relationships, work, and family. So, in a wild attempt to supress these, I admit I

Patterns of Excellence in Singapore

2006-02-07T20:22:00.000+08:00

One of our 300+ attendee seminars held at Nanyang Technological University, Singapore.

2006-02-07T15:15:00.000+08:00

Koi are relaxing. I never really thought of them as relaxing until I took this picture... perhaps you'll find koi as deeply relaxing as this picture says you will relax.

Simpleton! Dunce!

2006-02-07T14:02:00.000+08:00

Had an interesting conversation with my family the other day. My mum’s retired, so she’s taken up dance lessons to keep active. Her dance teacher keeps saying to the class “Simpleton! Simpleton!”, so turns out that she is a “dunce” teacher. Actually she was asking the class to make a ‘simple turn’. Lol. J

Learning Brain Conference 2006 (August)

2006-02-06T18:42:00.000+08:00

I just learnt that Eric Jensen, one of my earliest influences in NLP and accelerated learning, will be present in Singapore in 2006. It’s called the Learning Brain Conference! You will get to learn a wide range of different topics about the brain. Anyone who is an educator, planning to be one, or has the interest in Accelerated Learning must come to this FIRST TIME EVER conference. Call

Test for mobile blogging

2006-02-06T18:13:00.000+08:00

I'm in the process of doing mobile blogging. It's different but I'm finally getting it done!

Huo Yuan Jia: Choreography Of Your Choices

2006-02-06T02:34:00.000+08:00

I watched 霍元甲 a week ago (it actually seems like more than that because of the busy Lunar New Year Period) and I was honestly amazed that Jet Li would still be so limited in his acting abilities. I think the best shift in his character was really in Lethal Weapon 4 with Mel Gibson and Danny Glover. It was nice to see him act as the bad guy for the first time. But this show did bring out some of

Is this McInefficiency?

2006-02-02T20:26:00.000+08:00

I finally figured out why McDonald’s wants to have a 24 hour delivery service. They can’t deliver everything during meal times! I just got off the phone from a ‘customer’ service person (more like “come on let’s get it over and done with attitude”) who had the audacity to tell me to wait for 1 hour for my food to be delivered. Now, I understand that there is something called a ‘buffer period’

The Problem with Reward and Punishment: Pain As Gain?

2006-02-02T12:28:00.000+08:00

I read in the news today about a teenager’s choice to go to jail for assaulting someone instead of going for reformation. It was not really a shock to me, but rather a reflection of some of the issues regarding reward and punishment. It wasn’t too long ago when I trained at a Secondary School and worked with their normal technical stream students. These supposedly “lost” teens were in their

About Training In Schools

2006-02-01T20:43:00.000+08:00

I’ve done so many trainings in schools, I forget how many students I really train! So far, this year’s experience with Clementi Town Secondary School (yes, it’s been close to a month already since I did this so this is a little belated) was an exhilarating one. We had a motivational session for the Secondary Fives. Unfortunately for me, I don’t get to train in schools much now because of

Surviving 'Uinique' Service Quality Standards

2006-02-01T16:33:00.000+08:00

Retailers. Haiz… I suppose there’s no getting away from them, those who have poor service. I suppose if I wrote this, some people will start pointing fingers at my staff (hah) but really, they are responsive enough unlike some places I’ve visited over the Chinese New Year weekend. In fact, one of the things I ask my staff to do is to pay attention to how reasonable a request is and do it for

Star Player or Team Player?

2006-01-26T23:54:00.000+08:00

A thought came to mind that I had wanted to put down on the blog for the longest time. When in the work environment, many people ask if it is better to be a top performer or a team player. Ok – given the nature of the question, it’s not fair because you can actually be a top performing team player. But all things being constant, I believe firmly that being a team player is far better than being

Chinese New Year Renuion... Inside!

2006-01-26T11:31:00.000+08:00

Ok… I know a lot of people have been getting fat on the new year goodies WAAAaay before the Chinese New Year. How do I know? I’ve been there! J Seriously… Chinese New Year is significant. It’s probably the only time in the year where offices literally shut down operations for up to 7 days or more! But more significant is the ritual of getting together in a reunion. The idea that we should

Coaching Yourself: "Have You Ever Been Wrong?"

2006-01-24T15:26:00.000+08:00

“Have you ever been wrong?” ~ Richard Bandler. This quotation hangs in my head whenever I find myself thinking I know everything. It’s a solid kick in the butt, and prevents me from going the direction of being an egotistical megalomaniac (heh) J I spent a lot of time figuring out many things in myself through the people I interact with. Have you ever had a time where people would

Healing From Hatred

2006-01-24T04:54:00.000+08:00

One of the darkest times people can experience in life is a feeling of being consumed by hatred. I think many of us have experienced some measure of hate before, but this stems deeper into the soul. Hatred is a trigger reaction, and a very taxing emotion to handle. It consumes, literally, the fibre of one’s soul. The truth about hatred is that it is always irrational. Hatred extends beyond just

Blog Address Changed to http://Stuart-Tan.com!

2006-01-23T16:52:00.000+08:00

Dear friends, the blog address is no longer at stuart-tan.blogspot.com. Please visit http://www.Stuart-Tan.com for updates on the blogs. J

StuartTan.com gets a new look!

2006-01-23T11:07:00.000+08:00

Hey everyone! I’ve managed to change the look of http://www.stuarttan.com and I hope you like it. It’s cleaner, and people have been telling me to CHANGE THE DARN PHOTO. So… I hope you are happy now…

Keeping an Eye Open, Keeping your Heart Open

2006-01-23T00:20:00.000+08:00

There are many times when our visual self starts to explore the world around us. It turns out that the most common thing for us to do is to judge the book by it’s cover. It’s a natural tendency, and only those who are particularly astute and aware will be able to pick out problems with their initial judgement. Whenever you keep your eye open, therefore, keep your heart open too. Your judgement

Improving personal mastery

2006-01-19T11:30:00.000+08:00

If you haven’t heard of the Patterns of Excellence, you must make time to come for the preview we are running tonight! Anyone – students, parents, managers, business professionals, entrepreneurs, will benefit because of the nature of the success principles taught here. Of course, if you want to start a new business, this is probably the best place to go to tweak your mindset! Register

How To Grow A Business And Achieve Maximum Traffic

2006-01-18T18:42:00.000+08:00

I’m starting the course on in February, so those of you who are business owners, IT people, and people who are frustrated by the measly traffic you get online and offline, come down for this seminar. It’s going to be covering some of the latest ground-breaking stuff I’ve ever learnt, and I am certain that I’m ahead of almost everyone in the market. More of it to come at http://

Average Better Than Excellent

2006-01-06T14:05:00.000+08:00

I spoke with a friend Manoj Sharma regarding the concept of excellence, and something struck me. It appears that the Law of Averages is the Law of Excellence. You see, when you are in an organization, there are about 10-20% of employees who are top performers, earning 80-90% of the orgnaization’s revenues. The others end up filling in the remainder. But while I know the Pareto Principle may

Sub 50,000 on Alexa!!!

2006-01-06T13:30:00.000+08:00

Looks like http://InternetMarketingSingapore.com is about to head for sub-50,000 ranking soon. Alexa has a toolbar that helps identify how much traffic a website gets (in general). So, ever since my heydays of 4,000,000 rankings, climbing through the many rungs in the internet landscape, this is going to be an interesting milestone for InternetMarketingSingapore.com

Happy New Year!

2006-01-01T10:11:00.000+08:00

Here’s wishing everyone a very Happy New Year for 2006. I guess you would have probably been out painting the town red and stuff, but did you ever wonder why New Year ‘celebration’ is required? Our entire life surrounds a cycle – start, stop; begin, end. But we arbitrarily placed the start and stop. Especially where time is concerned. We organize our time and life in a way that makes

I was offered "lizard"

2005-12-26T15:22:00.000+08:00

Went for lunch with my family at Jack’s Place at Great World City. It was an interesting lunch because after lunch, the waitress asked us if we wanted our ‘lizards’. I said we didn’t order any ‘lizards’. She asked if we had the set meal, and we said ‘yes’. So she insisted “That means lizards will come with it”. It took me some time before I realized she was talking about ‘dessert’. Anyhow

About linking to me

2005-12-25T14:46:00.000+08:00

I’ve received a couple of your emails requesting for links to my blog. Do go ahead! I’d appreciate if you link direct to www.StuartTan.com because there are rumors that I will be taking down this blog and placing it directly on my own customized blog on my own web host…

Merry Christmas!

2005-12-25T00:37:00.000+08:00

Merry Christmas to everyone, and boy has this year been a crazy one! You don’t know what happened over the Christmas period this year… and when I get a chance, I’ll tell you all about it. For the moment, it’s just a series of thoughts about Christmas. What is Christmas? It’s a time to look outside so that you can look inside. It’s not unusual that we start something only to leave it off.

Inspiration

2005-12-20T14:58:00.000+08:00

I am fortunate to have the experience of motivating people. In fact, one of the most touching ones that moved me were the ones where I found that people were moved beyond their old comfort zones and where they began to find new strength their dreams... and just stick by it. This is Whoosh 14. Probably one of many other pictures I should have put up a long time ago…

Helping Others Has Never Been Easy But...

2005-12-16T18:26:00.000+08:00

Most people remember me as someone who is in the ‘helping’ profession. Being a counselor or coach is really not difficult, but it can be emotionally tiring as well. Dealing with the emotional burdens sometimes is tough, but the feeling of having helped someone often feels like running a marathon. It’s painful through the process, but the exhilaration at the finish line is indescribable.

Finally! It has arrived...

2005-12-10T15:26:00.000+08:00

Watch out for this spot! http://www.InternetProfitPropulsion.com because it highlights one of the most popular seminars that will ever go down in history. I’ve even gotten people signing up for it WAY before it was launched. Kinda cool, huh? Well, don’t just click the mouse… find out what kind of value you will get! Go in there because there are over US$700+ worth of stuff you will

Presentation Dynamics

2005-12-08T01:36:00.000+08:00

It was interesting that I had teachers (teachers to be) in my Presentation Dynamics program today. It was a fun-filled session, and naturally, I went about teaching them how to develop the charisma required to develop speaking abilities. However, as it stands now, Presentation Dynamics will no longer run in its present form. I have so far developed a Seminar-Based Selling program that will

Imperfection: How To Grow

2005-12-07T22:07:00.000+08:00

Most people will think that growing is about being perfect. In reality, our imperfections are the key to enabling our growth. Without imperfections, there would not be the human ability to rise from the ashes of our problems and become reborn. Without imperfections, human beings would not be inspired by success of their peers. Without imperfections, living would be too perfect, too calm, too

January's Blockbuster 2006 Internet Marketing Event

2005-12-06T19:40:00.000+08:00

I write in great anticipation and enthusiasm. Stephen Pierce has agreed to come down to Singapore to run a program on How to Accelerate Your Internet Wealth. This is part of the Internet Profit Propulsion Seminar that you will have to learn about. More information on the upcoming website for this event will be announced very soon…

Are you ready for bad times?

2005-12-04T10:01:00.000+08:00

You see, people are always happy to see good times. Sure, Singapore is doing well now. But what if I were to tell you that next year will be a year of collapse? Of course this is not necessarily true or false. The point is, this year has been pretty good in spite of the oil crisis. Are you ready to bite the bullet next year? Here are some things you need to do to enhance your preparedness

Don't Just Do Something - STAND There!

2005-12-02T13:33:00.000+08:00

A few people were tickled by this because they first thought it was a mistake. I got this from John LaValle in 1997 during NLP Trainer’s Training in Duluth, Minnesota. It was a mind blowing experience to learn from these great trainers. John has the amazing ability to give people soothing in his voice, and this was re-affirmed when I returned to see him in 2005 just in March. More

Just because you are 40+...

2005-12-02T10:00:00.000+08:00

I received an email from a subscriber to http://internetmarketingsingapore.com and he was worried about technology being too complex. He feels that in his mid-forties, he has achieved nothing. Nothing?! Well, call it a bout of low self-esteem, but I think everyone has the capacity to grow, regardless of age. My dad is 65 this year, and he learns something new every day. It’s this kind

The Most Important Thing In Personal Success

2005-11-30T00:36:00.000+08:00

Learning. Without learning, there is nothing. We’ve wanted artificial intelligence but we haven’t really got the means for a full-blown intelligent learning form. I can tell you that I learnt how to speak effectively because of the way I was learning from other people. Some of them told me their strategies, but some of them I simply modeled because I was able to observe and put some

Online Education

2005-11-29T14:08:00.000+08:00

Now I know most of you are not aware. I actually have a background in e-learning and that was one of the things that actually enabled me to develop my website www.internetmarketingsingapore.com. If you guys haven’t seen it, it’s just an example of one of my websites. I do this to pass the time… Now really. I think online education is crucial, and the advent of the blog has just made it more

The Psychology of Name Calling

2005-11-27T18:44:00.000+08:00

“You banana!” “You porcupine!” It’s been an interesting few days since I’ve been training the new group of kids during the SuperKids’ training program here at AKLTG. But I began to dwell upon the idea of name calling, because it was accentuated by the most recent batch, which seemed to turn name calling into an art. First, I think name calling is a strategy for familiarization. As with