I have a few useful resources for you guys, but you’ll have to study blogging properly.
If you’re using Wordpress, there’s a lot more functionality. If you’re using Blogger.Com, then you need to learn a bit more to customize your blog. However, both are customizable because the fact is you have access to the coding structure.
Here are some WordPress resources:
Each of these have themes that allow modification of the original look and feel.
If this is interesting to you, I’ll continue to post. If you have questions I’ll receive them via the comments posts.
Arrogance stems from many factors. One of the things that people dislike and are turned off by is a person’s look that appears to be arrogant. I suppose I can’t explain it when I say that there really are some people who have the airs of an arrogant person, even though they feel they aren’t. It’s written on their face, the way they look at others and the way they communicate.
Now, I know some people who would say “why should I give a hoot what other people think?” Trust me, I know it’s unfair that you have to blend in with the people around you. It’s a pain sometimes to have to be what you are not, to rise to the occasion, to be put to the test. However, many times, you can miss the forest for the trees – just because you think don’t need people now doesn’t mean you won’t need them later. And honestly, you may not see certain things that you are weak in and therefore need a third party to assess it in a new light for you. If you’ve burnt your bridges too early, then there will no longer be any opportunity for you if things go awry.
Let’s take the case of this parent I know. He has three children and is happily married. However, over time, while he became a successful businessman, he also was turning into a kind of tyrant at home. His children and wife who once respected him, now no longer did. They found him just bareable. He would spend nights in the office without telling his family where he was and forget important dates surrounding his family. About six years ago, his wife filed for a divorce because she felt he wasn’t paying attention to the family and playing his part as a father. It came as a shock. His children all chose to leave him as well. You would have thought this was as bad as it could get? Nope – his attitude carried across in the workplace. See, with his approach to people, he basically said “I don’t need you”. Now, when all things ended up the way they did, he had really no one to turn to. As a result, he had to change the entire approach to his communication and the way he dealt with people.
And if you think this fate won’t befall you, think again. Anything is possible – all it takes is the attitude of not really giving a damn.
Success is founded on your interaction with people. It’s not what you have. It’s who you are. It’s not you who determines if you are successful. It’s other people and the way they think of you as a person that determines if you are successful.
So, I’d like to emphasize this anonymous quote: “Be careful how you treat people on your way up, because you’ll never know who you’ll meet on your way down”.
I have a friend by the name of Zora Gajic. She’s Serbian by birth, and stays in the
When we first met in the Trainers and Consultants training in
It’s strange that someone from somewhere else in the world can make that kind of a connection with you. It’s a nightmare when people don’t understand you, but whenever it does happen, it’s such an uplifting feeling. For me, I am grateful for Zora (as are her 30,000 graduates, I believe), but more so because I think we have this strange (and fun) connection between us that keeps us together as friends even though we are so far apart geographically.
Perhaps as I’m revisiting my friends and paying tribute to them, you will do so too for your own friends!
Something just sparked in my head today. I wrote about ‘destiny’ yesterday, and I realized that there are truly some people whom I have been destined to meet. One of them is this guy called Alvin Soon. Now,
Here’s what I remember about him – bright-eyed, keen to learn, and always seeking that one thing that could give him an edge over other people in NLP. He learnt and used the techniques and then we were done with the course. I bumped into him several times, and when I finally met him again in early 2005 (or was it late 2004), he had grown skeptical about the applicability of NLP. Least to say, he came back for the Patterns of Excellence program and began to grow so much more from this program from the earlier program I ran – too technical, too cerebral.
Today, he’s developed in many different ways, and I suppose he has evolved from that person whom he has. After all, he is one of the reasons behind the success story of Woo Chiat Min who recovered from her stroke through our program.
I wonder if there have been times where you’ve had that uncanny connection with people? Instant rapport? If I’ve had a number of such people in my life, and sometimes I can’t help but be in wonder that they are the good people they are.
Sometimes, there are things in life that are worth being grateful for, and those are friends. So the reflection for today is – do you have friends? If you do, when was the last time you expressed your gratitude? Told them that they were special to you? Or showed them so? If you haven’t, you could spend some time contacting them. I’m going to do just that and I’ll follow up with Part 2 to this post…
Do you believe that there's a specific path you have been destined to walk? That no matter where you go, you have been called to get certain results in your life. I have had a number of different crossroads in my life, and somehow, each event seems to help the next event in my life. Perhaps it may seem that my life is charmed, but I feel that several of the events that happened were there to rattle me and shake me up for the next challenge. I don't deny that planning is an important part of taking charge of your destiny, yet there seems to be a route that I believe we have been called to start our journey on. Question: how do we know that we are on the right track? Let me answer this with a question. Do you spend most of your time doing things that make you feel good and that time seems to fly? Then you might find more than one thing that gets you going!
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I ran a test with a small group of coaches recently, and the strange feeling I got when I was doing this experiment was that people were literally getting positive vibes just reading good emotions. I knew they were contagious, I just didn’t know how much. So, I’m going to replicate this experiment with readers of my blog.
All you have to do is to post as many positive feelings as you have into this blog. Not only will this benefit you, it will benefit the people around you. Tell us about the situation where you felt that feeling, and why you actually felt that way. This exercise will gain you (1) greater emotional awareness, (2) better feelings, (3) more friends, and (4) help you to disengage from bad feelings. J Tell more friends about it and let's start spreading the great positive vibes to the rest of the world!
Most people think that self-esteem development is only for teenagers. That’s not true. I know many teenagers who have a great self-esteem whereas some adults simply hide their lack of self-esteem with anger, hate, complaining a lot, and even victimizing other people.
Here are some reasons why you have to constantly be aware and develop your own self-esteem.
The saying goes – “Know Thyself”. It’s not just good enough to know yourself, because you may be skewed by a biased perspective. You need to step outside of who you are, and start observing in order to know. Sometimes, the truth is illuminating: it gives you an idea of who you are, and then it also gives you an idea of opportunities you have missed to become more than who you are.
If you know you have terrible habits, then eliminate it. To do that, I’d recommend that you learn how to use NLP to save yourself from that terrible fate of being a bad habit collector. Whatever nonsense that deserves to be in the sewage should be left there, not anywhere else. In fact, it’s sometimes useful to imagine a mental garbage can and literally throw away the habits you choose to discard. Eliminating it also means that you have learn to create better mental patterns that help you along and replace the unwanted behavior.
See, working with different people means that you have to improve your ability to be flexible with your communication. Developing persuasive abilities means you need to learn how to read people effectively. I have developed some material to help you in this if you so choose – on persuasion skills. If you don’t develop the ability to deal with different people, your chances of surviving in the business world will drop. Obviously, there are social benefits for this too!
Failure happens to the best of us, right? So, what I mean is that you have no option other than to fail. This said, it also means that many of you will need resilience to buoy you through tough times! I’d suggest that this is not bad for us – we only need to ensure that the mistakes made in those failures are lessons learnt in a way that helps us make a good decision to become better!
You’ll never encounter simpler challenges. Over time, I’ve found for myself that things get tougher and tougher for me because that’s just the way life is. You’ll encounter challenges that you never met before, and you will need to strive to become even better than before. That’s why humans evolve. You will always get better, unless you choose to make ineffective decisions. That’s the reason why the good become better while the bad become worse.
Every human being’s self-esteem can be fostered in simple ways. You could praise yourself (not sing praises of yourself… that’s different), you could visualize yourself being better, you could even up your standards by simply demanding the best from yourself in everything you do. But the most important is to be aware and mindful of the choices we make – and then ensure that we constantly make useful decisions for our benefit and for the benefit of those around us. Effective decisions will help us to feel good about ourselves, but never ever flinch when you make a wrong decision.
Move on!
I just spent 45 minutes in total reading the book on Google. It’s fascinating! Larry Page is just one year older than I am, and Sergey Brin has a mathematical genius platoon under his head! I’ve never really heard about them or read about them, but this book on the development of Google was amazing. A short glimpse inside their conversations and their personality gives me a feeling of inspiration welling from inside. Their struggle to become viable, legal battles that they won, decisions they made that changed the history of the internet… all mind-blowing. And they did this all with ideas. Phew. It would be great to be able to meet them in person. Maybe I’ll drop them an email… wait for them to reply… hahaha…
I highly recommend the reading to anyone interested in building a great organization and keeping in tune with the times. Click here to read more about The Google Story.
Do you remember the Roadrunner and the Coyote? These guys have been at it forever. I kind of admire the roadrunner for one reason – he’s just doing what he’s doing best. And seldom does he have to do anything to take revenge or fight back, because he knows that the coyote is always going to screw up. In fact, I don’t even think the roadrunner is all that smart, but he just keeps doing what he does best!
Sometimes, life isn’t so rosy. It could be a little more painful than you think! So, in this case, be careful – you may turn into a Wile E. Coyote and start taking revenge, not realizing you are in the wrong state in the first place. Vengeance typically hits the individual craving the need for it first, causing emotional blowout. You need to look inside to release yourself of the need for vengeance, because if not, the roadrunner is just going to stand there and gloat at your mistakes!
So, instead of exacting revenge, just focus on what you do best to bring satisfaction to your life and improve the overall quality of your life, and I guarantee your own personal success!
I recently had someone request to be linked on Friendster, and I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread here on friendship. The reason why I thought I’d write is because there are a number of students whom I teach who seem to have an issue with ‘backstabbers’ and the like. Well, you’re not the first, and I want to explore the reasons why people may be ‘backstabbers’.
I’m not the first person to experience betrayal or ‘backstabbing’, but over the years I’ve discovered that there’s no real thing called betrayal or backstabbing. Let’s put it this way. I’ve thought I had been badly betrayed in the past and yet I’m almost sure that the other person will think the same way of me. So, who’s right and who’s wrong doesn’t matter anymore. What really matters is that you know that betrayal is just a way of understanding yourself and the way you communicate.
If you constantly test your friends to see if they ‘betray’ you, why did you test in the first place? If you hold on too tightly to the things of the past, you will start looking for evidence that supports it. It’s like the blade of a knife. Grabbing hold of it will make you bleed, but grabbing it tighter doesn’t make the bleeding stop – it makes things worse.
So those of you out there who are focusing on the problems with friends, then heed this – just because you felt betrayed doesn’t make the other person a betrayer. And just because you may have been betrayed doesn’t make you any better a person by going around telling people that you were betrayed. What makes you a better person is to look at what friendship does and what you can do to make it more so.
Why do you want friends? You need them because of many reasons. So, if you focus on those reasons, and those reasons alone, the idea of friendship doesn’t lose its meaning. Like I prefer to say, you might encounter betrayal and distrust. But don’t let that stop you from making friends – make friends in spite of it… make friends anyway. And be a far better friend because of your past experiences.
I’ve been teaching the stuff of dating and attraction for years, but the one that really bowled me over in stitches was that people propose by saying “Let’s go get a HDB flat”. I think romance is about getting oneself involved in feeling what the person is feeling. It’s a really sexy feeling to have your mind read by someone you love, and and be understood. Ever read the mind of someone and was 100% spot on 75% of the time? Heh, that’s an exciting and interesting skill to develop, isn’t it? J
I read the article on the death penalty for terrorists, and I was disturbed.. Not by the need for such laws, but by the worry that the law is functional when the perpetrators are actually caught. Laws such as this lead me to wonder how to make them effective and fair. After all, you don't want to be accused and put under the microscope. The stress of an investigation could make it worse than the death penalty itself!
Just like my previous post on punishment of gangsters, I think death is an over glorification of the terrorist. In the eyes of their countrymen, they are matyrs! Instead, the punishment should be innovative enough to create real pain.
For instance, to diffuse the terrorist abilities, just send their leaders pictures of them shaking hands with political leaders of the country they intended to bomb... Then, take lots of pictures of them laughing while on a tour of the local zoo, or Sentosa (of course you spike them with nitrous oxide)... Smiling, you can then send their photos and videos back to their home country, with more consequences to them than to your countr...
|W|P|113972088672273265|W|P|Death Penalty for terrorists?|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.comAh… finally, Stuart-Tan.com has been indexed. I know for a fact that there are a number of people who do not know how to get their sites indexed and therefore lose out a lot on the traffic aspect of things. I’ll be covering a post on that soon at www.internetmarketingsingapore.com/blog/. It’s just for the benefit of people who want to start their own blog but have no idea how to get more people to visit. J
I had a very strange experience yesterday – just after 3 days of posting, Wordpress Blog gets indexed whereas Blogger blog didn’t even after two weeks. I’m migrating http://stuart-tan.com over to my Wordpress blog, man… sheesh.
Someone asked me to elaborate about love and hurt. I suppose I haven’t had the chance to discuss this issue on my blog, so it came as an opportunity for me. I think love (as in romantic love) has interesting definitions – I treat love as a connection that leads two people to blend in many ways than just one.
They think the same thoughts, they feel the same feelings, they behave in similar ways that are strangely uncanny, and that builds up the rapport and deepens the connection.
I’m almost certain that people who read this description will either believe me 100%, or not believe me at all. It’s a strange feeling that one has with romantic love, time distorts itself very strangely – a minute with that person feels like a microsecond, and a minute away from that person feels like eternity.
Hurt in my opinion is a mechanism that helps us understand ourselves. Without hurt, you won’t get feedback, and you won’t know what is important to you. Hurt however can fester. If you don’t learn how to process it you may not be able to learn to become better, but rather regress.
If you were hurt by love, perhaps you felt betrayed. But there’s more to you than just a negative feeling.
Gain insight!
Looks like the Life Coaches are initiating a Gratitude Experiment. I’d first like to contribute to this by saying that the Life Coaches in AKLTG have always been a boon.
Alvin, Pete, Brenda, Yezhong, Kalai, Paiboon and the rest who have contributed as coaches, are some of the most amazing people in the world I have met.
Their strength in caring and contribution have helped people… countless numbers of them. The strange thing is that their qualities are not commercially appreciated for some reason. So, my next phase in the Gratitude Experiment is to generate traffic for the Life Coaches Blog… haha. Let’s see if I can help to raise the Life Coaches Blog Alexa Rankings to sub 50,000 in the next 3 weeks.
I find I tend to hold on to things that can’t be held, and it gets frustrating whenever that which cannot be held is taken away from me. Weird, huh. So since you can’t hold on to things that can’t be held, don’t get caught up frustrating yourself when you know that it’s not possible to hold on to them. Then, the true meaning of letting go takes place.
Have you ever felt trapped before? Here’s a scenario:
You are walking down the road. An old lady is crossing the street and a car heading toward her direction is about to hit her, what do you do if you are close enough to do something?
Why is there no conflict about this?
Whereas:
Your friend of many years tells you to turn up on time for an important meeting. Five minutes before the meeting, your friend tells you he can’t turn up, so you leave the place. Ten minutes later, you see your friend hanging out with some other group of friends, chatting and laughing.
Why does this present a conflict?
A conflict generates an emotion. My feeling is that in the first scenario, there is 100% congruence. Even if you could not help the lady, you’d not break up inside and feel guilty because you happened to be there. But in the second scenario, it paints a much deeper, painful picture. A friend tells you to come for an important meeting and then apparently abandons you for another group. As with all things, it seems that it’s the friend is at fault, true?
But if we take a step back, that’s not true anymore. The fact is the friend is jus the external object, and the truth is that the time has just come to look inside and evaluate your own values. Why did you get so upset in the first place? What is the name of the feeling you have? Betrayal? Anger? Disappointment?
We hold on to so many things, when actually, there was initially nothing. Isn’t it strange that suddenly the whole world can collapse so easily, so readily, simply from one action?
It’s not the action of other people that counts – it’s your reaction, your response. When you come to terms to understand why you feel the way you feel, which of your values was affected? Perhaps friendship and loyalty? Perhaps commitment? With this internal conflict, there are two main options: to deal with it or to run away. I know most people take the easy way out and run away. But to deal with it, especially when we realize it’s US that creates emotions in ourselves, it can be painful. We battle the feeling that it should be someone else’s responsibility and not ours.
Let go. Start off by relaxing every fibre of your muscles and your soul, too, will relax. Then, find your center. Once you are grounded and less flightly, you can look at your values and his values, and realize you are both seeking the same thing. Perhaps if you were in his position, you would do the same thing. Was your initial feeling worth losing friendship for? Maybe not. Maybe now, you have a better, more resourceful choice.
The Bard picked up his lute and strummed a
solemn tune, as the curious men and women
gathered around to listen to the strange old
tales of the Gods of the Ancient Cities. As he
cleared his voice, he sang, clear and strong.
“And Aneldra smiled upon her face of beauty
… and built for her the perfect
the place where restless souls would flee to,
it was the place for minds to meet; it was a
place for sorrows to melt through, it was the
heart that would be Man’s lifeblood, beat…”
The Seventh City was first conceived by Joash Chee, Terence Teh and myself when we were young enough to consider whether SCGS or MGS girls were cuter (It turns out that it was neither). We never really completed the story, but I’ll do my best to tell the tale. To me, this story is about people seeking to restore hope and to reverse unimaginable odds. The triumph of the spirit reminds me that there is much more to our life here on this worldly planet. That perhaps one day, we, too, will return to our seventh city of paradise. It’s my ultimate metaphor for living the life we want, knowing how to treat people, and my favorite – the Magic – which really represents the real magical miracles that we create in our own lives by helping and healing.
“Once upon a red star, the Goddess Aneldra
made the planet, and the living creatures of
Xeth. She loved them, and nurtured them.
Good beings, they were, and they worshipped
Her and honored Her in the
Jealous of his sister’s creations, Ankylos, Her
brother, made his own creation, and called it
Rogan, and there, a mighty race of technicians
grew and discovered Science and all its power.
And one day, when Aneldra was not looking,
Ankylos stole a peek at Xeth, and gloated at
the meaninglessness of its’ inhabitant’s lives.
He made mischief on the planet, visiting and
bringing misfortune to many, ravaging it with
occasional disasters. And when Aneldra returned,
She kept wondering why her inhabitants kept
praying diligently and fearfully to avoid calamity.
One day, Ankylos was just about to steal into
Xeth once again – but Aneldra had disguised
Herself as the planet Xeth. But it was a terrible
Fate for Her that day, as Ankylos set about playing:
and sent his own planet Rogan on a collision
course with Xeth, not knowing his Sister was
merged with the planet.
Rogan’s descent onto Xeth would have created
Complete disaster, and wiped out all civilization
on both planets. But Ankylos didn’t care about
the inhabitants – he simply wanted his way.
But little did he know, he was about to destroy
His very own Sister.
Aneldra cried out in horror. Why would he do
such a thing? It was almost too late. The
planets were just moments away from complete
destruction. And Ankylos realized the folly of
his moment. Rogan came funneling down, and
its gravity pulled – no, ripped – the surface of
Xeth piece by piece, slowly crumbling itself.
Rogan touched Xeth, and all hell broke loose on
the surfaces of both planets. Aneldra’s dilemma
came in the choice she had to make – to destroy
the menacing planet that was threatening hers?
In sheer desperation, Aneldra harnessed her godly
powers and shielded the ones She loved on Xeth
and granted all power to them for protection.
She called upon a great ritual that turned her into
the very spirit of the rivers, mountains and oceans,
granting power to her devotees, who would then
take this power and protect and shield Xeth. For
she loved the world so much, she would lose her
Self and live in her creations.
And before Ankylos could do anything, Aneldra
was gone. But her sacrifice had led to the emergence
of a planet of planets. A curious oddity, Aneldra
was a wobbling pear-shaped planet, floating in
space, the final result of the Goddess’s love for
life, peace and harmony.
And Ankylos banished himself to weep for a
hundred centuries.”
Had an interesting conversation with my family the other day. My mum’s retired, so she’s taken up dance lessons to keep active. Her dance teacher keeps saying to the class “Simpleton! Simpleton!”, so turns out that she is a “dunce” teacher. Actually she was asking the class to make a ‘simple turn’. Lol. J
I just learnt that Eric Jensen, one of my earliest influences in NLP and accelerated learning, will be present in
I'm in the process of doing mobile blogging. It's different but I'm finally getting it done!
|W|P|113922081846638021|W|P|Test for mobile blogging|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.comI watched 霍元甲 a week ago (it actually seems like more than that because of the busy Lunar New Year Period) and I was honestly amazed that Jet Li would still be so limited in his acting abilities. I think the best shift in his character was really in Lethal Weapon 4 with Mel Gibson and Danny Glover. It was nice to see him act as the bad guy for the first time. But this show did bring out some of the best in his fighting style and the choreography of fight scenes.
One of the biggest lessons learnt in that show was that you have to suffer the consequences of your own actions and choices. The fact is that choices do have immense consequences, some of which are wonderful some, not so great. If we began to think about what is happening in our lives today, we might be able to feel a lot better about ourselves and our lives IF we simply applied to ourselves, the desire to make better and more effective decisions every day.
Sometimes, we may ruminate about negative emotions. But we can choose to make it an effective event or to let it ruin our day. I know for most people, this is like asking “why does 霍元甲 have such a bad story line”. In my humble opinion, those of us watching a story line may not have chosen to watch the show the way it should have been watched. The show focused on the beauty and the mystery of martial arts, and the choices we create by it. To many, it’s just another fight. But to engage with an opponent and ensure your opponent’s safety while defeating him is no easy task. You can certainly bash your opponent to pulp, but that wins no respect.
Taking it further, we should constantly engage our challenges without allowing it to create harm or damage to ourselves and the people we love – all we really need is the ability to choose. What choices have you made today?
I finally figured out why McDonald’s wants to have a 24 hour delivery service. They can’t deliver everything during meal times! I just got off the phone from a ‘customer’ service person (more like “come on let’s get it over and done with attitude”) who had the audacity to tell me to wait for 1 hour for my food to be delivered.
Now, I understand that there is something called a ‘buffer period’ and something called a ‘lack of reason’. I think this kind of behavior borders on the latter. Sheesh - I’d just walk 10 minutes to the nearest restaurant and grab something. Fast food? No… slooooow food.
I read in the news today about a teenager’s choice to go to jail for assaulting someone instead of going for reformation. It was not really a shock to me, but rather a reflection of some of the issues regarding reward and punishment.
It wasn’t too long ago when I trained at a Secondary School and worked with their normal technical stream students. These supposedly “lost” teens were in their worst times, many who were happy-go-lucky to fight the depth of the feelings of loneliness and sadness in their hearts. I was aggravated to see that the system of reward and punishment had, once again, failed.
My good friend, Sid Jacobson, once warned me about the loathing effects of reward and punishment. I realize that it’s true – some people will not logically choose the one which is apparently less painful for us. In the news, the 17 year old Yong decided to choose jail and six strokes of the cane.
What is this – bravery? Or stupidity? Perhaps the courts don’t realize that the choice made is always the best choice for the individual. To some people, going to jail is like a track record.
“Don’t fool around with him – he’s gone to jail before…”
I don’t suppose people will be too worried in ‘certifying’ our criminals this way? The reward and punishment system is in our schools, in our homes and sadly, in our society. Not everyone will realize the error of such a system.
I think Richard Bandler put it right – criminals should be ridiculed in the manner that prevents them from using their jail term as a track record. Richard even suggested that to stop criminals from getting together, they should be made to wear a tutu and dance ballet in pink tights in front of a recording camera. Then, you can blackmail them…
“If you get into trouble again, I’ll send this to your secret society members…”
And that will be the end of that…
I’ve done so many trainings in schools, I forget how many students I really train! So far, this year’s experience with
One thing that I have to say is that many things in the local school system we have can be changed to ensure a much more motivated student population. It’s not an easy task, and I know that the Ministry of Education must already be doing something about it, but I think there could be a lot more done simply by realizing that what is being done now is ‘overkill’. Homework… teachers telling the students what to do rather than aligning themselves with student needs and values systems (aligning – not agreeing)… plenty of pressures in the teaching environment and the like are not as what we envisioned.
I believe that the entire innovation and enterprise movement in the MOE should be extended first to the teachers. If only they knew that they could leverage on technology much more than they do now! Yes, I know that there are those who are technophobic, but at the same time, just failing to learn about it is ironic – teachers not understanding how they can learn is probably the biggest paradox we can have in
So, while we work at creating a much more effective workforce for the future, let’s remember to go down to the ground. Students in secondary schools nowadays require a lot more emotional support than ever. The future to them is nothing more than an inevitable death knell… after all, in many schools, their spirit is never nurtured. Many of them have had their dreams and motivation driven out from them – the focus has been too much on the ‘task’ rather than the ‘person’. I walk around in assembly halls and hear principals and teachers screaming at their kids… just before we are about to give a motivational talk. Wow… thanks a lot. It’s already hard enough, so why make it harder.
Of course I’m not pointing fingers – there’s really nothing wrong with the current system because it is slowly evolving. But the key point is the word ‘slowly’. I suppose there could be more done to foster the motivation in students. We come back to the point that many teachers could have their potential unleashed much faster if they were to just give themselves a chance to realize the true nature of their calling.
In understanding “calling”, it’s really the journey we are taking. The journey that defines who we are and what we should do in the future. I suppose I’ll cover this concept of “calling” in another post. For now, let’s search for more innovative ways to make our next generation of Singaporeans a much more effective and caring bunch! If you’ve got ideas, drop them by in the comments below.
Retailers. Haiz… I suppose there’s no getting away from them, those who have poor service. I suppose if I wrote this, some people will start pointing fingers at my staff (hah) but really, they are responsive enough unlike some places I’ve visited over the Chinese New Year weekend. In fact, one of the things I ask my staff to do is to pay attention to how reasonable a request is and do it for the customer’s sake.
Conversely, I was in a queue, and it said ‘express lane’ for 8 items or less, right… so it ended up that I was the second person in front of the counter. Lo and behold, when I ended up at the counter, after having passed my stuff through, one of the items had no tag, and was not registered in the POS machine. This girl, whose name according to the company’s kind name tag was “New Staff”, promptly walked away from the counter, leaving me standing there… not a word uttered. The express lane turned into something of a ironic paradox… she came back a several minutes later and still couldn’t get the offending item to reveal itself in the POS database. So as a forgiving customer, I just told her to forget it. She was so slow, that although I had change to receive from her, I just walked away, half worried that she might not know what to do with the excess change.
I’m certain that there are instances where service quality doesn’t always meet our standards, but I figure I don’t have to make a mountain out of a molehill. After all, it wasn’t really life threatening… well it did kill a few minutes of my time, but I’m still alive…