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I have a few useful resources for you guys, but you’ll have to study blogging properly.

If you’re using Wordpress, there’s a lot more functionality. If you’re using Blogger.Com, then you need to learn a bit more to customize your blog. However, both are customizable because the fact is you have access to the coding structure.

 

Here are some WordPress resources:

http://themes.wordpress.net

http://www.emilyrobbins.com

http://www.alexking.org

 

Each of these have themes that allow modification of the original look and feel.

 

If this is interesting to you, I’ll continue to post. If you have questions I’ll receive them via the comments posts.

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Arrogance stems from many factors. One of the things that people dislike and are turned off by is a person’s look that appears to be arrogant. I suppose I can’t explain it when I say that there really are some people who have the airs of an arrogant person, even though they feel they aren’t. It’s written on their face, the way they look at others and the way they communicate.

Now, I know some people who would say “why should I give a hoot what other people think?” Trust me, I know it’s unfair that you have to blend in with the people around you. It’s a pain sometimes to have to be what you are not, to rise to the occasion, to be put to the test. However, many times, you can miss the forest for the trees – just because you think don’t need people now doesn’t mean you won’t need them later. And honestly, you may not see certain things that you are weak in and therefore need a third party to assess it in a new light for you. If you’ve burnt your bridges too early, then there will no longer be any opportunity for you if things go awry.

Let’s take the case of this parent I know. He has three children and is happily married. However, over time, while he became a successful businessman, he also was turning into a kind of tyrant at home. His children and wife who once respected him, now no longer did. They found him just bareable. He would spend nights in the office without telling his family where he was and forget important dates surrounding his family. About six years ago, his wife filed for a divorce because she felt he wasn’t paying attention to the family and playing his part as a father. It came as a shock. His children all chose to leave him as well. You would have thought this was as bad as it could get? Nope – his attitude carried across in the workplace. See, with his approach to people, he basically said “I don’t need you”. Now, when all things ended up the way they did, he had really no one to turn to. As a result, he had to change the entire approach to his communication and the way he dealt with people.

And if you think this fate won’t befall you, think again. Anything is possible – all it takes is the attitude of not really giving a damn.

Success is founded on your interaction with people. It’s not what you have. It’s who you are. It’s not you who determines if you are successful. It’s other people and the way they think of you as a person that determines if you are successful.

So, I’d like to emphasize this anonymous quote: “Be careful how you treat people on your way up, because you’ll never know who you’ll meet on your way down”.

 

 

 

 

|W|P|114094052604722324|W|P|Arrogance and Change|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/27/2006 04:19:00 AM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|Hello Stuart,
How come you never smile when not on stage or speaking? It would be nice if you could change to another default facial expression(with smile). People will warm up to you more.:)
One of the reasons I joined POE was to hear you speak. I love your style. You are amazing, precise and inspiring. Don't stop.
I am sorry I have to leave this msg here as I could not find your contact on akltg.com but I couldn't let this morning slip by without first telling you as I know work will find me busy.:):)
God Bless,
Caren, Whoosh 18
powergreetings@yahoo.com
9-78574912/27/2006 04:33:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hi Caren!
It's likely that you don't get to see me enough to observe the many moments I'm smiling.
Thanks for the compliment, and may you have many blessings to you and yours.
Stuart3/17/2006 02:52:00 AM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|Hello Stuart,
I think I might have a similar problem with music. It's not that I think i'm the best, it's just hard to express myself on things that are important to me. And when I do, I come off too cocky or arrogant. I'm not sure of how to change and i've decided to try to change. I read your little passage on change and how it will affect you if you don't so if you can, i'd like to hear or get some tips from someone who knows how to deal with my situation. Any and all help appreciated. Thank you.

If and when you can, i'd like to hear your recommendations for a remedy.

Madskrews@gmail.com2/25/2006 08:59:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Not too long ago, I was invited to a wedding. My friend, Joash Chee, was getting married. Well, a friend whom I’ve known since I was in Secondary Two, that is. The strange thing is that he remembered me from the invitation list that connected another mutual friend and classmate, Terence Teh, through his wife, who happened to know me through the newspaper ads we do. I couldn’t make his wedding due to training commitments, but I ended up calling him for a lunch. Turns out that nothing much has changed all this while – we’re doing the same things we’ve been doing but at a slightly different scale. It’s been some time since we did all our creative stuff together as a group – writing, composing music and playing computer games… heh – all in the spirit of friendship. AND we might be launching something fun together again, as we always do. |W|P|114082919261541331|W|P|Friendship: The Uncanny Connection Part 3|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/24/2006 10:24:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

I have a friend by the name of Zora Gajic. She’s Serbian by birth, and stays in the Czech Republic, running Silva Mind Power seminars. In my opinion, she’s also an extremely attractive woman, not just because she looks great, but because there’s a very deep level of connection that she makes with people around her, not just some fluff and small talk.

When we first met in the Trainers and Consultants training in NLP University, it was a very funny and uncanny connection we made. I should record her voice – she has a really interesting Serbian accent (which I’ve been modeling). She speaks several languages, including some Chinese (I taught her how to say ‘I love you’ in Mandarin… hahaha). All things considered, we were like buddies – she has a problem, I sense it and give her a call to wherever it is that she is.

It’s strange that someone from somewhere else in the world can make that kind of a connection with you. It’s a nightmare when people don’t understand you, but whenever it does happen, it’s such an uplifting feeling. For me, I am grateful for Zora (as are her 30,000 graduates, I believe), but more so because I think we have this strange (and fun) connection between us that keeps us together as friends even though we are so far apart geographically.

Perhaps as I’m revisiting my friends and paying tribute to them, you will do so too for your own friends!

|W|P|114074788787755526|W|P|Friendship: The Uncanny Connection Part 2|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/23/2006 10:34:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Will we die? Yes, all of us will. But I think some people are not aware of their own mortality, sometimes me included. I find that the eternal irony of life just beckons - are we just a figment of it's imagination after we leave this place. I find myself having to conform to other people's wishes and desires... Living life the way other people want. Sometimes it's flattering that people think of you, but it's sickening that people are just so self absorbed by what they want of other people they forget to stand on the other side of the fence. So, is life meant to be this big joke, with strings attached to everything we do? Shall we be manipulated into conformity? So, as a loving spouse, are you expected to be someone else? As a student, are you conforming to a system that expects you to be a particular way to be considered a 'good' student? Perhaps this is merely a symptom of a form of paranoid thinking. If for instance we were to stop and reflect, we might be blind because the reflection comes from us rather than objective reality. Then... Is there really an 'objective' reality? I was once reminded of my own mortality in a dream. And in that dream, someone said 'you are human'. So, does that mean our fragile life ought to be belittled and scoffed at? Contrary to that... It is mortality that lets me believe we as Humans, in this short span of time we are alive, we ought to treasure it and discover that beyond this mortal shell, our actions and behaviors leave immortal effects for the people we interact with. So when you act, act purposefully. When you care, care wholeheartedly. When you anger, anger wisely and slowly. When you fear, fear contendedly. When you smile, smile completely. And if you doubt, doubt clearly. But whatever you do, live... And live humanly. ;)|W|P|114066224087428109|W|P|You, too, are Mortal|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/24/2006 09:51:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Anita|W|P|Yes, we will all die. Many of us spend so much time and effort finding a solution for our illness or for a better health and lifestyle, worrying about how we will die. There's a saying that goes something like that, " Worry not how you will die but how you have live." This world would be a much better place if we all live each day as if it was our last, doing what we can for others and not so much on what others can do for us.
God Is With You,
Anita2/24/2006 11:33:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hey Anita, great contribution. It echoes my feelings about how we should all focus on developing and living well rather than just existing. :)

Stuart3/03/2006 03:11:00 PM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|Like that poem. specially "anger wisely and slowly". anger drives me to do many postive things that I wouldn't normally do and in the process i change or become better. "Doubt clearly" means knowing exactly what we are not sure about huh? so we can put it to the test. Or by determining the question precisely, we come up with the rigt answer.. closer to home. But what does the poet mean by "fear contentedly"??
Caren2/23/2006 09:42:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Something just sparked in my head today. I wrote about ‘destiny’ yesterday, and I realized that there are truly some people whom I have been destined to meet. One of them is this guy called Alvin Soon. Now, Alvin runs a Blog with several other contributors, called www.LifeCoachesBlog.com. I’ve known him since 1997, actually, when he first came for my NLP Practitioner’s training program.

Here’s what I remember about him – bright-eyed, keen to learn, and always seeking that one thing that could give him an edge over other people in NLP. He learnt and used the techniques and then we were done with the course. I bumped into him several times, and when I finally met him again in early 2005 (or was it late 2004), he had grown skeptical about the applicability of NLP. Least to say, he came back for the Patterns of Excellence program and began to grow so much more from this program from the earlier program I ran – too technical, too cerebral.

Today, he’s developed in many different ways, and I suppose he has evolved from that person whom he has. After all, he is one of the reasons behind the success story of Woo Chiat Min who recovered from her stroke through our program. Alvin was her personal coach. So nowadays, no matter where I go, I see this guy hiding a number of talents… and if you haven’t read his blog, you may begin to wonder the things you’ve missed out!

I wonder if there have been times where you’ve had that uncanny connection with people? Instant rapport? If I’ve had a number of such people in my life, and sometimes I can’t help but be in wonder that they are the good people they are.

Sometimes, there are things in life that are worth being grateful for, and those are friends. So the reflection for today is – do you have friends? If you do, when was the last time you expressed your gratitude? Told them that they were special to you? Or showed them so? If you haven’t, you could spend some time contacting them. I’m going to do just that and I’ll follow up with Part 2 to this post…

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Do you believe that there's a specific path you have been destined to walk? That no matter where you go, you have been called to get certain results in your life. I have had a number of different crossroads in my life, and somehow, each event seems to help the next event in my life. Perhaps it may seem that my life is charmed, but I feel that several of the events that happened were there to rattle me and shake me up for the next challenge. I don't deny that planning is an important part of taking charge of your destiny, yet there seems to be a route that I believe we have been called to start our journey on. Question: how do we know that we are on the right track? Let me answer this with a question. Do you spend most of your time doing things that make you feel good and that time seems to fly? Then you might find more than one thing that gets you going!

|W|P|114060141967933865|W|P|Destiny |W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/22/2006 07:50:00 PM|W|P|Blogger kloudiia|W|P|Yeah. Life seems to have a way of sorting things out for us. But more often than not, it usually strikes after we have expended our efforts and time in setting things straight, if they are not, yet.

These are what we can collect and store them in our memories embedded in our brain, call "Life's Experiences".2/22/2006 05:11:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies: Poverty in Spirit?: "http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/02/22/your-solution-to-the-world/#comment-864"|W|P|114059951993027528|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies: Poverty in Spirit?|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/22/2006 04:35:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Alvin wrote an interesting article here, which I commented on. Poverty, contribution and what we can do in the world – what’s your stand?

 

http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/02/22/your-solution-to-the-world/#comment-864

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I ran a test with a small group of coaches recently, and the strange feeling I got when I was doing this experiment was that people were literally getting positive vibes just reading good emotions. I knew they were contagious, I just didn’t know how much. So, I’m going to replicate this experiment with readers of my blog.

All you have to do is to post as many positive feelings as you have into this blog. Not only will this benefit you, it will benefit the people around you. Tell us about the situation where you felt that feeling, and why you actually felt that way. This exercise will gain you (1) greater emotional awareness, (2) better feelings, (3) more friends, and (4) help you to disengage from bad feelings. J Tell more friends about it and let's start spreading the great positive vibes to the rest of the world!

|W|P|114059437900339155|W|P|By 30th April 2006 - One Thousand Positive Emotions!!|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com3/01/2006 12:00:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|I unintentionally bumped into Tan Yew Siang from Whoosh1. She was there at Book Cafe for a SBG meeting. Whoosh 1! Oh my... it was an eye opener that some of them are still Deeply involved and it warms me!3/03/2006 02:56:00 PM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Heh... my friend Ryan Chua at www.RyanChua.com is now undergoing an operation in the hospital. How strange it is when I can find a great reason to be happy because someone else is in hospital... heheh... nah, it's because I am glad I don't have to be in the sterile place...2/21/2006 02:33:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| My girlfriend recently took a photo of this using my O2 Atom (it was much better after the ROM upgrade), and reminded me that it is important for us to sometimes look for the aesthetic amongst simple things. When was the last time you actually looked at something simple but focused on what was wonderful about it? Like a leaf? A chair? A book? And marvel at the fact that although it is so simple, without it, the world is going to be missing something important.|W|P|114050407146289528|W|P|Perspective... Again!|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/21/2006 03:55:00 PM|W|P|Blogger kloudiia|W|P|Nice photo taken! Artistic enough..yeah haha :)2/21/2006 02:29:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Most people think that self-esteem development is only for teenagers. That’s not true. I know many teenagers who have a great self-esteem whereas some adults simply hide their lack of self-esteem with anger, hate, complaining a lot, and even victimizing other people.

 

Here are some reasons why you have to constantly be aware and develop your own self-esteem.

  1. Know who you really are.

The saying goes – “Know Thyself”. It’s not just good enough to know yourself, because you may be skewed by a biased perspective. You need to step outside of who you are, and start observing in order to know. Sometimes, the truth is illuminating: it gives you an idea of who you are, and then it also gives you an idea of opportunities you have missed to become more than who you are.

 

  1. Eliminate the crap inside.

If you know you have terrible habits, then eliminate it. To do that, I’d recommend that you learn how to use NLP to save yourself from that terrible fate of being a bad habit collector. Whatever nonsense that deserves to be in the sewage should be left there, not anywhere else. In fact, it’s sometimes useful to imagine a mental garbage can and literally throw away the habits you choose to discard. Eliminating it also means that you have learn to create better mental patterns that help you along and replace the unwanted behavior.

 

  1. You need to deal with different people.

See, working with different people means that you have to improve your ability to be flexible with your communication. Developing persuasive abilities means you need to learn how to read people effectively. I have developed some material to help you in this if you so choose – on persuasion skills. If you don’t develop the ability to deal with different people, your chances of surviving in the business world will drop. Obviously, there are social benefits for this too!

 

  1. Sometimes, failure is not an option.

Failure happens to the best of us, right? So, what I mean is that you have no option other than to fail. This said, it also means that many of you will need resilience to buoy you through tough times! I’d suggest that this is not bad for us – we only need to ensure that the mistakes made in those failures are lessons learnt in a way that helps us make a good decision to become better!

 

  1. Challenges will always keep getting tougher, and so do you.

You’ll never encounter simpler challenges. Over time, I’ve found for myself that things get tougher and tougher for me because that’s just the way life is. You’ll encounter challenges that you never met before, and you will need to strive to become even better than before. That’s why humans evolve. You will always get better, unless you choose to make ineffective decisions. That’s the reason why the good become better while the bad become worse.

 

Every human being’s self-esteem can be fostered in simple ways. You could praise yourself (not sing praises of yourself… that’s different), you could visualize yourself being better, you could even up your standards by simply demanding the best from yourself in everything you do. But the most important is to be aware and mindful of the choices we make – and then ensure that we constantly make useful decisions for our benefit and for the benefit of those around us. Effective decisions will help us to feel good about ourselves, but never ever flinch when you make a wrong decision.

Move on!

|W|P|114050337077665540|W|P|Developing Self-Esteem|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/22/2006 01:24:00 PM|W|P|Blogger DanieL|W|P|i hav a friend who is having self-esteem problems and is always looking for someone to accept and love him/her unconditionally. i don want to hurt the feelings by saying its the 'desperate' attitude tht is like the repelling force. how shld i tell the person if rejection comes again?2/22/2006 05:15:00 PM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hm! Interesting, because I think all of us want love, but none of us really know what your friend's definition of love is.

I suppose that if this person has a self-esteem problem, even if you tell them the truth, they will find it hurtful. I do have an inclination to invite this person to learn how to manage his/her emotions. Occasionally, positive emotions can help this person discover great feelings of happiness. Also, looking at other people and how they struggle through pain can give one a sense of how to appreciate one's present standard of living.

So, first pre-requisite... if he or she wants to be unconditionally loved, then he or she needs to unconditionally love him/herself first. =)2/23/2006 10:03:00 AM|W|P|Blogger DanieL|W|P|yep that's where the big problem lies. I wanted to tell her about the 1 in 2 million theory adam told us during the camp, but i dont think it will have any effect. She is just not happy with her appearance. What should i tell her?2/23/2006 10:32:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Haha... Sometimes, not everyone who needs help wants to be helped. =) If she is hung up about her looks, there are a few things she should do. (1) Think pretty thoughts - which obviously affect our looks, (2) Get plastic surgery, which is a viable option for many people nowadays. I don't mean to be mean, so I hope my comment isn't treated as such... heheh...2/23/2006 11:33:00 AM|W|P|Blogger DanieL|W|P|hahahaha...yea true. thanks for the advice. =)2/21/2006 02:06:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|On my way to the fair, I met seven jugglers and a bear. Every juggler had three cats, Every cat had three rats, Every rat had two mice, All the mice had nine lice. Lice, mice, rats and cats, Seven jugglers and a bear, How many in all were going to the fair?|W|P|114050258879926373|W|P|Riddle of the Fair|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/22/2006 12:59:00 PM|W|P|Blogger DanieL|W|P|1 is going to the fair. =)2/20/2006 02:06:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

I just spent 45 minutes in total reading the book on Google. It’s fascinating! Larry Page is just one year older than I am, and Sergey Brin has a mathematical genius platoon under his head! I’ve never really heard about them or read about them, but this book on the development of Google was amazing. A short glimpse inside their conversations and their personality gives me a feeling of inspiration welling from inside. Their struggle to become viable, legal battles that they won, decisions they made that changed the history of the internet… all mind-blowing. And they did this all with ideas. Phew. It would be great to be able to meet them in person. Maybe I’ll drop them an email… wait for them to reply… hahaha…

I highly recommend the reading to anyone interested in building a great organization and keeping in tune with the times. Click here to read more about The Google Story.

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|W|P|114037051183809432|W|P|Interesting Point About Selfishness|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/20/2006 12:35:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| This is the Curve, a brand new shopping mall in KL, Malaysia, where I just came back from. It's an interesting mall with lots of restaurants, and it's pretty large, yet it's empty because it hasn't launched yet. I stayed at the Royal Bintang Hotel (Damansara) which is different from the one at Jln Bukit Bintang. Didn't have much of a chance to tour around the place, but I think there's probably some more opportunity for me to explore further some other time. At first I was rather apprehensive having to walk around looking at the new surrounding. But I suppose it's about stretching my comfort zone. Well, at least I found the 7-Eleven. Heh...|W|P|114037101931696222|W|P|The Curve: KL, M'sia|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/21/2006 09:40:00 AM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|The curve is my backyard, my home is 3 minutes away from the it. This place always reminds me of melbourne australia..I dont know why..maybe its all those restorants and cafe's.2/21/2006 10:48:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Yo Jag... you should have let me know earlier. We could have met up for a drink or something... :)2/19/2006 09:13:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| Wow - this was quite a blast. I had some really belly-bursting laughs here and I can say it was one of the most funny programs I'd ever led. Of course, I wish I hadn't had to come up to KL for the preview. Class of 4/2 an 4/5... I wish you guys all the very best!|W|P|114035510608455595|W|P|Training Commonwealth Secondary School|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/22/2006 04:01:00 PM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|all the best to you to.2/25/2006 09:28:00 AM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|all the best to you too =)2/19/2006 08:45:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|I've been pondering about the effectiveness of training. I mean, I obviously don't doubt it is useful, but I wonder about the people who attend the training, and how it becomes effective for them to use and learn because the important thing is the way an individual follows up with his or her own learnings. So I'm in a fix - do I fork out the time to have a follow-up with them, or do I get them to follow-up with me? In the interest of coaching them for better habits, I reckon that getting them to proactively follow-up with me will be better, because this helps them to develop the habit of proactively seeking help. However, the problem comes where people are too busy and leave off, that means I have to push information to them instead. As a result of that, I end up having to take the lead, which really defeats the purpose, but on the other hand if I didn't, they wouldn't have the information to follow up in the first place. This dilemma that I put myself into is not a really big problem, but it has given me some ideas. In order for people to follow-up with me, all they need is a resource to do so - a piece of software. So, I thought it would be a great idea to have all my follow-up material pushed to their desktops in the morning when they start work (especially corporate clients). Each of the material act as executive summaries that they can benefit from unless they want to read more. And reading revision notes and key ideas can help them to be more effective. Well, where my students are concerned, they probably don't have the habit of reading from their computers, so perhaps I'll just leave stuff on a blog. Still, that doesn't 'push' information, so I'll get their email addresses and post them regular updates and information just to keep them going. Hmm... sounds like an interesting idea that I have to work on and test - perhaps this will increase the return on investment for training! Anyone interested in corporate training programs can contact my Corporate Training Division's Biz Development Manager, Desmond at 62554345 for a meeting.|W|P|114035371356379287|W|P|Effectiveness of Training|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/20/2006 09:06:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Joyce|W|P|Hey!I support u in providing follow-ups after training sessions. I have attended the superkids course conduted by Adam Khoo and Ernest Wong 5 years back. Right after the course, I am empowered to do anything that seems impossible before attending the course. However, during these 5 years, I somehow got lost somewhere along the way in my life, losing the desire to achieve and don't know where to get help from after the course.It's until I saw Adam Khoo and You giving a talk at NTU during Jan this year that makes me reflect what i had learned few years back and what i want to do with my life in Ntu now.Therefore, students like me will definitely follow up with u.2/20/2006 09:28:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hello Joyce! Great to hear from you! Well, do feel free to stay in contact. This blog does nothing but focus on developing people while giving me a chance to rant. I look forward to hearing from you again. ;)2/19/2006 08:40:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|
I ran an empowerment seminar for around 90 students who had attended my 'I am Gifted, So are You' and Superkids training programs. The follow up was amazing, with lots of kids and lots of questions!
|W|P|114035309039397167|W|P|Malaysia - Empowerment Seminar|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/19/2006 08:35:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|I took this picture while having lunch with my family and girlfriend... and it serves as an interesting reminder that we could explore doing certain things in our lives that we never thought of doing. I mean, I've never taken a photo of soup before. The reminder is interesting because it's a picture. I remember the old Jamaican lady in "Meet Joe Black" saying that in our life, we ought to collect "nice pictures" before we leave this world. I suppose I'm doing that right now. The perspective helps to create new insights - each picture a reminder and a symbol... an anchor. Perhaps you too can think of something you could do that you would never have done until you read this post! |W|P|114035278862924064|W|P|Do What You Never Would Have Done|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/19/2006 07:59:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Some of us have been hard at work developing our coaches through the use of different skills. Here's what they have been busy doing: |W|P|114035085380401987|W|P|Coaching the Patterns of Excellence|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/19/2006 07:55:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| I've been working with some of these guys for over a year now. I think if people are interested in learning about coaching and developing coaching skills ought to take the time to learn from them. Obviously, you need to have completed the Patterns of Excellence Program. But, having a conversation with them on Life Coaches Blog can also benefit you. Here, we have Paiboon, Pete and Alvin.|W|P|114035035389173411|W|P|Life Coaching|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/18/2006 10:07:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Do you remember the Roadrunner and the Coyote? These guys have been at it forever. I kind of admire the roadrunner for one reason – he’s just doing what he’s doing best. And seldom does he have to do anything to take revenge or fight back, because he knows that the coyote is always going to screw up. In fact, I don’t even think the roadrunner is all that smart, but he just keeps doing what he does best!

Sometimes, life isn’t so rosy. It could be a little more painful than you think! So, in this case, be careful – you may turn into a Wile E. Coyote and start taking revenge, not realizing you are in the wrong state in the first place. Vengeance typically hits the individual craving the need for it first, causing emotional blowout. You need to look inside to release yourself of the need for vengeance, because if not, the roadrunner is just going to stand there and gloat at your mistakes!

So, instead of exacting revenge, just focus on what you do best to bring satisfaction to your life and improve the overall quality of your life, and I guarantee your own personal success!

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I recently had someone request to be linked on Friendster, and I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread here on friendship. The reason why I thought I’d write is because there are a number of students whom I teach who seem to have an issue with ‘backstabbers’ and the like. Well, you’re not the first, and I want to explore the reasons why people may be ‘backstabbers’.

I’m not the first person to experience betrayal or ‘backstabbing’, but over the years I’ve discovered that there’s no real thing called betrayal or backstabbing. Let’s put it this way. I’ve thought I had been badly betrayed in the past and yet I’m almost sure that the other person will think the same way of me. So, who’s right and who’s wrong doesn’t matter anymore. What really matters is that you know that betrayal is just a way of understanding yourself and the way you communicate.

If you constantly test your friends to see if they ‘betray’ you, why did you test in the first place? If you hold on too tightly to the things of the past, you will start looking for evidence that supports it. It’s like the blade of a knife. Grabbing hold of it will make you bleed, but grabbing it tighter doesn’t make the bleeding stop – it makes things worse.

So those of you out there who are focusing on the problems with friends, then heed this – just because you felt betrayed doesn’t make the other person a betrayer. And just because you may have been betrayed doesn’t make you any better a person by going around telling people that you were betrayed. What makes you a better person is to look at what friendship does and what you can do to make it more so.

Why do you want friends? You need them because of many reasons. So, if you focus on those reasons, and those reasons alone, the idea of friendship doesn’t lose its meaning. Like I prefer to say, you might encounter betrayal and distrust. But don’t let that stop you from making friends – make friends in spite of it… make friends anyway. And be a far better friend because of your past experiences.

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I’ve been teaching the stuff of dating and attraction for years, but the one that really bowled me over in stitches was that people propose by saying “Let’s go get a HDB flat”. I think romance is about getting oneself involved in feeling what the person is feeling. It’s a really sexy feeling to have your mind read by someone you love, and and be understood. Ever read the mind of someone and was 100% spot on 75% of the time? Heh, that’s an exciting and interesting skill to develop, isn’t it? J

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I read the article on the death penalty for terrorists, and I was disturbed.. Not by the need for such laws, but by the worry that the law is functional when the perpetrators are actually caught. Laws such as this lead me to wonder how to make them effective and fair. After all, you don't want to be accused and put under the microscope. The stress of an investigation could make it worse than the death penalty itself!

Just like my previous post on punishment of gangsters, I think death is an over glorification of the terrorist. In the eyes of their countrymen, they are matyrs! Instead, the punishment should be innovative enough to create real pain.

For instance, to diffuse the terrorist abilities, just send their leaders pictures of them shaking hands with political leaders of the country they intended to bomb... Then, take lots of pictures of them laughing while on a tour of the local zoo, or Sentosa (of course you spike them with nitrous oxide)... Smiling, you can then send their photos and videos back to their home country, with more consequences to them than to your countr...

|W|P|113972088672273265|W|P|Death Penalty for terrorists?|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/13/2006 05:48:00 PM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|Get them to wear a George Bush mascot for a week and parade them around the White House shaking the hands of fellow US citizens and get them to write in their own handwritings detailing the injustice and destructiveness terrorism had cause and praising the good work George Bush has done before getting them to broadcast what they had written to the rest of the World! ^ ^2/11/2006 09:41:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Ah… finally, Stuart-Tan.com has been indexed. I know for a fact that there are a number of people who do not know how to get their sites indexed and therefore lose out a lot on the traffic aspect of things. I’ll be covering a post on that soon at www.internetmarketingsingapore.com/blog/. It’s just for the benefit of people who want to start their own blog but have no idea how to get more people to visit. J

|W|P|113966526774449594|W|P|Finally indexed|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/10/2006 09:34:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

I had a very strange experience yesterday – just after 3 days of posting, Wordpress Blog gets indexed whereas Blogger blog didn’t even after two weeks. I’m migrating http://stuart-tan.com over to my Wordpress blog, man… sheesh.

|W|P|113957844877971568|W|P|Blogger or Wordpress?|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/21/2006 09:43:00 AM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|I've been using wordpress for my blogs ever since I started blogging...its so much more customizable but just dont get wordpress 2.0, its sucks2/21/2006 10:51:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hey Jag... Blogger has it's advantages from a SEO perspective, but that was corrected in WP 2.0. Heh... WP 2.0 blogs have been indexed within 3-5 days instead of weeks. ;) Perhaps it could just be a mere oversight on my part because Google was doing its Page Rank update...2/08/2006 08:33:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Someone asked me to elaborate about love and hurt. I suppose I haven’t had the chance to discuss this issue on my blog, so it came as an opportunity for me. I think love (as in romantic love) has interesting definitions – I treat love as a connection that leads two people to blend in many ways than just one.

 

They think the same thoughts, they feel the same feelings, they behave in similar ways that are strangely uncanny, and that builds up the rapport and deepens the connection.

 

I’m almost certain that people who read this description will either believe me 100%, or not believe me at all. It’s a strange feeling that one has with romantic love, time distorts itself very strangely – a minute with that person feels like a microsecond, and a minute away from that person feels like eternity.

 

Hurt in my opinion is a mechanism that helps us understand ourselves. Without hurt, you won’t get feedback, and you won’t know what is important to you. Hurt however can fester. If you don’t learn how to process it you may not be able to learn to become better, but rather regress.

 

If you were hurt by love, perhaps you felt betrayed. But there’s more to you than just a negative feeling.

 

Gain insight!

 

|W|P|113940201019779686|W|P|Love And Hurt|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/08/2006 06:50:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies: LifeCoachesBlog: Gratitude Experiement|W|P|113939582880092722|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies: LifeCoachesBlog: Gratitude Experiement|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/08/2006 05:29:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Looks like the Life Coaches are initiating a Gratitude Experiment. I’d first like to contribute to this by saying that the Life Coaches in AKLTG have always been a boon.

 

Alvin, Pete, Brenda, Yezhong, Kalai, Paiboon and the rest who have contributed as coaches, are some of the most amazing people in the world I have met.

 

Their strength in caring and contribution have helped people… countless numbers of them. The strange thing is that their qualities are not commercially appreciated for some reason. So, my next phase in the Gratitude Experiment is to generate traffic for the Life Coaches Blog… haha. Let’s see if I can help to raise the Life Coaches Blog Alexa Rankings to sub 50,000 in the next 3 weeks.

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I find I tend to hold on to things that can’t be held, and it gets frustrating whenever that which cannot be held is taken away from me. Weird, huh. So since you can’t hold on to things that can’t be held, don’t get caught up frustrating yourself when you know that it’s not possible to hold on to them. Then, the true meaning of letting go takes place.

 

Have you ever felt trapped before? Here’s a scenario:

 

You are walking down the road. An old lady is crossing the street and a car heading toward her direction is about to hit her, what do you do if you are close enough to do something?

Why is there no conflict about this?

 

Whereas:

Your friend of many years tells you to turn up on time for an important meeting. Five minutes before the meeting, your friend tells you he can’t turn up, so you leave the place. Ten minutes later, you see your friend hanging out with some other group of friends, chatting and laughing.

 

Why does this present a conflict?

 

A conflict generates an emotion. My feeling is that in the first scenario, there is 100% congruence. Even if you could not help the lady, you’d not break up inside and feel guilty because you happened to be there. But in the second scenario, it paints a much deeper, painful picture. A friend tells you to come for an important meeting and then apparently abandons you for another group. As with all things, it seems that it’s the friend is at fault, true?

 

But if we take a step back, that’s not true anymore. The fact is the friend is jus the external object, and the truth is that the time has just come to look inside and evaluate your own values. Why did you get so upset in the first place? What is the name of the feeling you have? Betrayal? Anger? Disappointment?

 

We hold on to so many things, when actually, there was initially nothing. Isn’t it strange that suddenly the whole world can collapse so easily, so readily, simply from one action?

 

It’s not the action of other people that counts – it’s your reaction, your response. When you come to terms to understand why you feel the way you feel, which of your values was affected? Perhaps friendship and loyalty? Perhaps commitment? With this internal conflict, there are two main options: to deal with it or to run away. I know most people take the easy way out and run away. But to deal with it, especially when we realize it’s US that creates emotions in ourselves, it can be painful. We battle the feeling that it should be someone else’s responsibility and not ours.

 

Let go. Start off by relaxing every fibre of your muscles and your soul, too, will relax. Then, find your center. Once you are grounded and less flightly, you can look at your values and his values, and realize you are both seeking the same thing. Perhaps if you were in his position, you would do the same thing. Was your initial feeling worth losing friendship for? Maybe not. Maybe now, you have a better, more resourceful choice.

|W|P|113938216682328348|W|P|Dealing With A Conflict of Values|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/08/2006 05:00:00 AM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

The Bard picked up his lute and strummed a

solemn tune, as the curious men and women

gathered around to listen to the strange old

tales of the Gods of the Ancient Cities. As he

cleared his voice, he sang, clear and strong.

 

“And Aneldra smiled upon her face of beauty

… and built for her the perfect Temple. It was

the place where restless souls would flee to,

it was the place for minds to meet; it was a

place for sorrows to melt through, it was the

heart that would be Man’s lifeblood, beat…”

 

The Seventh City was first conceived by Joash Chee, Terence Teh and myself when we were young enough to consider whether SCGS or MGS girls were cuter (It turns out that it was neither). We never really completed the story, but I’ll do my best to tell the tale. To me, this story is about people seeking to restore hope and to reverse unimaginable odds. The triumph of the spirit reminds me that there is much more to our life here on this worldly planet. That perhaps one day, we, too, will return to our seventh city of paradise. It’s my ultimate metaphor for living the life we want, knowing how to treat people, and my favorite – the Magic – which really represents the real magical miracles that we create in our own lives by helping and healing.

 

“Once upon a red star, the Goddess Aneldra

made the planet, and the living creatures of

Xeth. She loved them, and nurtured them.

Good beings, they were, and they worshipped

Her and honored Her in the Temple of the

Seventh City.

 

Jealous of his sister’s creations, Ankylos, Her

brother, made his own creation, and called it

Rogan, and there, a mighty race of technicians

grew and discovered Science and all its power.

 

And one day, when Aneldra was not looking,

Ankylos stole a peek at Xeth, and gloated at

the meaninglessness of its’ inhabitant’s lives.

He made mischief on the planet, visiting and

bringing misfortune to many, ravaging it with

occasional disasters. And when Aneldra returned,

She kept wondering why her inhabitants kept

praying diligently and fearfully to avoid calamity.

 

One day, Ankylos was just about to steal into

Xeth once again – but Aneldra had disguised

Herself as the planet Xeth. But it was a terrible

Fate for Her that day, as Ankylos set about playing:

and sent his own planet Rogan on a collision

course with Xeth, not knowing his Sister was

merged with the planet.

 

Rogan’s descent onto Xeth would have created

Complete disaster, and wiped out all civilization

on both planets. But Ankylos didn’t care about

the inhabitants – he simply wanted his way.

But little did he know, he was about to destroy

His very own Sister.

 

Aneldra cried out in horror. Why would he do

such a thing? It was almost too late. The

planets were just moments away from complete

destruction. And Ankylos realized the folly of

his moment. Rogan came funneling down, and

its gravity pulled – no, ripped – the surface of

Xeth piece by piece, slowly crumbling itself.

 

Rogan touched Xeth, and all hell broke loose on

the surfaces of both planets. Aneldra’s dilemma

came in the choice she had to make – to destroy

the menacing planet that was threatening hers?

 

In sheer desperation, Aneldra harnessed her godly

powers and shielded the ones She loved on Xeth

and granted all power to them for protection.

 

She called upon a great ritual that turned her into

the very spirit of the rivers, mountains and oceans,

granting power to her devotees, who would then

take this power and protect and shield Xeth. For

she loved the world so much, she would lose her

Self and live in her creations.

 

And before Ankylos could do anything, Aneldra

was gone. But her sacrifice had led to the emergence

of a planet of planets. A curious oddity, Aneldra

was a wobbling pear-shaped planet, floating in

space, the final result of the Goddess’s love for

life, peace and harmony.

 

And Ankylos banished himself to weep for a

hundred centuries.”

|W|P|113934602131691179|W|P|The Seventh City: Part 1 - The Beginning|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/08/2006 06:40:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|In anticipation of the next episode:-

Aneldra herself is a representation of all that is good.

When Aneldra passes on her powers to her worldly inhabitants, they gain the trait of immortality.

The race of beings have varying gifts, and those with the strongest are sent to the various temples for training to be psychic protectors - who then use this strength to hold the two planets together and prevent the gravitational pull of the planets from crushing each other to oblivion.

But with the advent of the new scientific race, the Roguns arise. There are two groups of Roguns - the surface dwellers and those who inhabit the underground. Surface dwellers are strong technologically and bring to Xeth (now known as Aneldra to honor their goddess) the gift of science.

Unknown to the Xethians, the Roguns underwent mind-shattering genetic mutations that sent half their population underground, fearing the light and the air that contains Aneldra's presence. Somehow, the reaction to the atmosphere crushes them, and puts them in perpetual pain, but grants them extremely twisted powers. The Roguns want to hide this embarrassing menace by finding their brethren and curing - or killing - them.2/07/2006 09:50:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|You know the old adage "Confusion means you are learning". I'd like to update that a bit - being aware and acknowledging that you are confused means you are learning. For most part of 2005, I was confused and was battling a lot of the confusion inside myself. A whole series of things seemed to go wrong including relationships, work, and family. So, in a wild attempt to supress these, I admit I ignored the problems for a bit too long, and perhaps that was the reason for a fairly strange level of ineffectiveness in my own ability to manage my emotions for some time. Until I realized that I wasn't going the way I wanted to go. I think I really came to terms with it after I stopped being in the emotion and started to gain awareness of it, and acknowledged that it was a problem. It wasn't easy - in fact it was quite painful, like a new baptism of fire. It reminded me a lot of the idea that purification often comes with extreme situations. So the changes began to take place in November of 2005. Today, I think I'm much more balanced, and many things have fallen in place for me. When you are aware and you know yourself, answers usually come. In my opinion, the most amazing thing about 2006 is the sense of renewal, and from out of confusion, there was clarity. I realized that learning to gain perspective is not easy - that awareness of what isn't working right brings with it a very important decision: to change for the better. With it, comes a question - what are you hiding? Perhaps you've never considered this question. Perhaps you are not aware that you are hiding the truth behind your actions because the truth can hurt. But... it's a very important question to confront yourself with every day.|W|P|113932041649579303|W|P|Finding Purpose Part 3|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/07/2006 08:22:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| One of our 300+ attendee seminars held at Nanyang Technological University, Singapore.|W|P|113931542049788484|W|P|Patterns of Excellence in Singapore|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/07/2006 03:15:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P| Koi are relaxing. I never really thought of them as relaxing until I took this picture... perhaps you'll find koi as deeply relaxing as this picture says you will relax.|W|P|113929669425975323|W|P||W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/07/2006 02:02:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Had an interesting conversation with my family the other day. My mum’s retired, so she’s taken up dance lessons to keep active. Her dance teacher keeps saying to the class “Simpleton! Simpleton!”, so turns out that she is a “dunce” teacher. Actually she was asking the class to make a ‘simple turn’. Lol. J

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I just learnt that Eric Jensen, one of my earliest influences in NLP and accelerated learning, will be present in Singapore in 2006. It’s called the Learning Brain Conference! You will get to learn a wide range of different topics about the brain. Anyone who is an educator, planning to be one, or has the interest in Accelerated Learning must come to this FIRST TIME EVER conference. Call 62740105 for more information!

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I'm in the process of doing mobile blogging. It's different but I'm finally getting it done!

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I watched 霍元甲 a week ago (it actually seems like more than that because of the busy Lunar New Year Period) and I was honestly amazed that Jet Li would still be so limited in his acting abilities. I think the best shift in his character was really in Lethal Weapon 4 with Mel Gibson and Danny Glover. It was nice to see him act as the bad guy for the first time. But this show did bring out some of the best in his fighting style and the choreography of fight scenes.

One of the biggest lessons learnt in that show was that you have to suffer the consequences of your own actions and choices. The fact is that choices do have immense consequences, some of which are wonderful some, not so great. If we began to think about what is happening in our lives today, we might be able to feel a lot better about ourselves and our lives IF we simply applied to ourselves, the desire to make better and more effective decisions every day.

Sometimes, we may ruminate about negative emotions. But we can choose to make it an effective event or to let it ruin our day. I know for most people, this is like asking “why does 霍元甲 have such a bad story line”. In my humble opinion, those of us watching a story line may not have chosen to watch the show the way it should have been watched. The show focused on the beauty and the mystery of martial arts, and the choices we create by it. To many, it’s just another fight. But to engage with an opponent and ensure your opponent’s safety while defeating him is no easy task. You can certainly bash your opponent to pulp, but that wins no respect.

Taking it further, we should constantly engage our challenges without allowing it to create harm or damage to ourselves and the people we love – all we really need is the ability to choose. What choices have you made today?

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I finally figured out why McDonald’s wants to have a 24 hour delivery service. They can’t deliver everything during meal times! I just got off the phone from a ‘customer’ service person (more like “come on let’s get it over and done with attitude”) who had the audacity to tell me to wait for 1 hour for my food to be delivered.

Now, I understand that there is something called a ‘buffer period’ and something called a ‘lack of reason’. I think this kind of behavior borders on the latter. Sheesh - I’d just walk 10 minutes to the nearest restaurant and grab something. Fast food? No… slooooow food.

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I read in the news today about a teenager’s choice to go to jail for assaulting someone instead of going for reformation. It was not really a shock to me, but rather a reflection of some of the issues regarding reward and punishment.

It wasn’t too long ago when I trained at a Secondary School and worked with their normal technical stream students. These supposedly “lost” teens were in their worst times, many who were happy-go-lucky to fight the depth of the feelings of loneliness and sadness in their hearts. I was aggravated to see that the system of reward and punishment had, once again, failed.

My good friend, Sid Jacobson, once warned me about the loathing effects of reward and punishment. I realize that it’s true – some people will not logically choose the one which is apparently less painful for us. In the news, the 17 year old Yong decided to choose jail and six strokes of the cane.

What is this – bravery? Or stupidity? Perhaps the courts don’t realize that the choice made is always the best choice for the individual. To some people, going to jail is like a track record.

“Don’t fool around with him – he’s gone to jail before…”

I don’t suppose people will be too worried in ‘certifying’ our criminals this way? The reward and punishment system is in our schools, in our homes and sadly, in our society. Not everyone will realize the error of such a system.

I think Richard Bandler put it right – criminals should be ridiculed in the manner that prevents them from using their jail term as a track record. Richard even suggested that to stop criminals from getting together, they should be made to wear a tutu and dance ballet in pink tights in front of a recording camera. Then, you can blackmail them…

“If you get into trouble again, I’ll send this to your secret society members…”

And that will be the end of that…

|W|P|113885451881811668|W|P|The Problem with Reward and Punishment: Pain As Gain?|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/02/2006 05:11:00 PM|W|P|Anonymous Anonymous|W|P|LoL... Stuart, continue posting such topics and you will soon find yourself becoming an MP... cheers! =P2/02/2006 05:33:00 PM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Not likely - I think they have already blacklisted me... haha.2/01/2006 08:43:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

I’ve done so many trainings in schools, I forget how many students I really train! So far, this year’s experience with Clementi Town Secondary School (yes, it’s been close to a month already since I did this so this is a little belated) was an exhilarating one. We had a motivational session for the Secondary Fives. Unfortunately for me, I don’t get to train in schools much now because of commitments to other training divisions, especially the corporate training division.

One thing that I have to say is that many things in the local school system we have can be changed to ensure a much more motivated student population. It’s not an easy task, and I know that the Ministry of Education must already be doing something about it, but I think there could be a lot more done simply by realizing that what is being done now is ‘overkill’. Homework… teachers telling the students what to do rather than aligning themselves with student needs and values systems (aligning – not agreeing)… plenty of pressures in the teaching environment and the like are not as what we envisioned.

I believe that the entire innovation and enterprise movement in the MOE should be extended first to the teachers. If only they knew that they could leverage on technology much more than they do now! Yes, I know that there are those who are technophobic, but at the same time, just failing to learn about it is ironic – teachers not understanding how they can learn is probably the biggest paradox we can have in Singapore!

So, while we work at creating a much more effective workforce for the future, let’s remember to go down to the ground. Students in secondary schools nowadays require a lot more emotional support than ever. The future to them is nothing more than an inevitable death knell… after all, in many schools, their spirit is never nurtured. Many of them have had their dreams and motivation driven out from them – the focus has been too much on the ‘task’ rather than the ‘person’. I walk around in assembly halls and hear principals and teachers screaming at their kids… just before we are about to give a motivational talk. Wow… thanks a lot. It’s already hard enough, so why make it harder.

Of course I’m not pointing fingers – there’s really nothing wrong with the current system because it is slowly evolving. But the key point is the word ‘slowly’. I suppose there could be more done to foster the motivation in students. We come back to the point that many teachers could have their potential unleashed much faster if they were to just give themselves a chance to realize the true nature of their calling.

In understanding “calling”, it’s really the journey we are taking. The journey that defines who we are and what we should do in the future. I suppose I’ll cover this concept of “calling” in another post. For now, let’s search for more innovative ways to make our next generation of Singaporeans a much more effective and caring bunch! If you’ve got ideas, drop them by in the comments below.

 

|W|P|113879781005300256|W|P|About Training In Schools|W|P|stuart@imasiahub.com2/02/2006 10:52:00 PM|W|P|Blogger fongeng|W|P|Hey Stuart!
Thanks for training US!
(CTSS sec 5!)

U and Danny were GREAT! :D
Thanks for all that motivation!
and btw, sch is STRESS! =X
opps! its an excuse! haa!

Time to SLEEP! :P
buh-bye! have fun! Miss ya pple!2/04/2006 09:58:00 AM|W|P|Blogger Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|Hey! Keep up all the great work. I know you guys will come up tops. Tell your frens to come back if they need questions answered. You know where to reach me! ;)2/01/2006 04:33:00 PM|W|P|Stuart's Philosophies|W|P|

Retailers. Haiz… I suppose there’s no getting away from them, those who have poor service. I suppose if I wrote this, some people will start pointing fingers at my staff (hah) but really, they are responsive enough unlike some places I’ve visited over the Chinese New Year weekend. In fact, one of the things I ask my staff to do is to pay attention to how reasonable a request is and do it for the customer’s sake.

Conversely, I was in a queue, and it said ‘express lane’ for 8 items or less, right… so it ended up that I was the second person in front of the counter. Lo and behold, when I ended up at the counter, after having passed my stuff through, one of the items had no tag, and was not registered in the POS machine. This girl, whose name according to the company’s kind name tag was “New Staff”, promptly walked away from the counter, leaving me standing there… not a word uttered. The express lane turned into something of a ironic paradox… she came back a several minutes later and still couldn’t get the offending item to reveal itself in the POS database. So as a forgiving customer, I just told her to forget it. She was so slow, that although I had change to receive from her, I just walked away, half worried that she might not know what to do with the excess change.

I’m certain that there are instances where service quality doesn’t always meet our standards, but I figure I don’t have to make a mountain out of a molehill. After all, it wasn’t really life threatening… well it did kill a few minutes of my time, but I’m still alive…

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